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TO not go on family weekend away?

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Onthedowns · 18/01/2018 21:52

My brother and brother in law turning 30 this year, their girlfriend and wife said about hiring a large house for 2 nights. It’s withinan hour 10 adults and 6 children. The price has come back 450 per couple. I am horrified. !! I have said we cannafford it as we have other commitments. I hav

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Onthedowns · 19/01/2018 09:10

WE have two children my sister three and my other sister has 1. Food drink travel on top

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FluffyWuffy100 · 19/01/2018 09:12

Can you research more appropriate places?

Ellie56 · 19/01/2018 09:12

If they are going to be difficult tell them to pay!

You need to stand up for yourself and say "No, we can't afford that sort of money. It's too expensive." Get DP to tell them if you don't feel able to.Repeat ad infinitum.

Don't be made to feel guilty. Your family are being unreasonable.£450 for 2 days is a ridiculous amount of money especially when you've got a kitchen and wedding expenses to pay out for.

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Onthedowns · 19/01/2018 09:32

well I get the kids are going to miss out etc spiel, one of the reasons it has to be August is because my parents are away all summer then back in aug then away again till October

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Situp · 19/01/2018 09:38

That is a lot of money OP.

I don't think YABU to feel it is too much but I would urge you to say something sooner rather than later. The longer it goes on, the harder it will be.

I think you should also say what your budget is so whoever is planning it can have an idea of what you can spend.

unicornfarts · 19/01/2018 10:13

OP - just wondering if you've spotted your parallel thread with lots of interesting ideas......140 or so posts last I checked!

FurCoatFurKnickers · 19/01/2018 14:03

As someone said, very unusual to find somewhere that will rent out for 2 nights in peak season. Very few will accept bookings for less than a week this far in advance. Some might offer a short break closer to the time as a special offer (unless this is through airbnb)

Sounds way too expensive to me if the children have to sleep on sofabeds. Surely that will have an impact on 'adult time' if the sofabeds are in a communal lounge?

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Onthedowns · 19/01/2018 20:19

Well it’s a huge place with larger rooms and more one lounge it has 6 bedrooms I just find it a lot of money to ask people they are going regardless and it will cost them more. I get made to feel I am missing out as it’s 30th bday but I wouldn’t dream of asking people to pay that if it were me

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AlexaAmbidextra · 19/01/2018 23:12

Is this place in north Norfolk by any chance?

alphajuliet123 · 19/01/2018 23:41

Your original thread is absolutely hilarious, OP, I think you inadvertently created a classic!

SilverySurfer · 20/01/2018 00:01

If it's an hour away from where you live, why don't you tell them that you cannot afford the OTT price but will drive there and spend a day with them?

Mitel · 20/01/2018 00:17

If it's not until September, could you not cut down on some luxuries until then. Sounds like a big event. How much would you spend on getting your hair done for example between now and then? I'm sure your brother would really appreciate you being there. If you can afford the hen do.....probably a manicure etc beforehand.....

MiddleClassProblem · 20/01/2018 00:28

Is it September or August because you said both?

I don’t think it’s a crazy price. Unfortunately that’s pretty standard. If you can’t afford it just say that. If they really wanted you there they would figure a way to make it affordable.

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Onthedowns · 20/01/2018 06:49

It’s 31st aug for two nights. I just can’t fathom spending that plus more on two nights

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Flashinggreen · 20/01/2018 06:53

Can you just join them on one of the days say for lunch?

KC225 · 20/01/2018 09:46

If its only an hour away, go on the second day. Tell them you will bring a nice picnic for everyone. For the price of 70 quid (or 90 if you put aside a tenner a month starting from now) you can provide a nice picnic for 40 quid 20 quid on drink and spend 10 quid on some glow sticks and giant inflatable footballs/bananas from pound shop for the kids to play with.

The kids get to see their cousins and the family, they don't gave to cook and it has saved you a fortune. You have valid reasons for kor going, hens, weddings and a new kitchen stick to your guns.

MiddleClassProblem · 20/01/2018 10:23

So are you saying you can’t use can’t afford it as an excuse? It’s difficult then. If you in theory can “easily” afford it, I would suck it up and take the hit for a special family weekend. If you can afford it but would have to sacrifice something like another holiday elsewhere then I’m not sure that counts as affording it.

I think special family weekends like this are important and great (depending on the family) but it’s a close call between that and a week long family holiday which is special too.

hmmwhatatodo · 21/01/2018 08:19

I’m keen to know why the Op is ignoring te noihydc.

Truthstar · 21/01/2018 08:34

OP do you know you have a hilarious other thread running?

Roussette · 21/01/2018 09:55

If it's embarrassment, OP, don't be! We love you, I managed to choke on a cup of coffee reading your other thread and had to go and lie down with a damp flannel on my forehead Grin

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Onthedowns · 21/01/2018 12:27

Sorry where’s the other thread???

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Onthedowns · 21/01/2018 12:28

If we saved we could try and afford it but we have two weddings, a new kitchen I work two jobs . We aren’t destitute but with food travel etc it’s more like £550 which for under two days , 2pm arrival 2pm leave is I think a lot to ask other people

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Partypopper123 · 21/01/2018 12:34

Have you found your te noihydc thread yet Op? It's v funny.

Truthstar · 21/01/2018 13:15

Heres your other thread ...... 😂

TO not go on family weekend away?
Kizzibel · 21/01/2018 13:29

Te Noihydc

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