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To tell him this

6 replies

allyminime · 18/01/2018 18:46

I'm 5 months out of an abusive relationship. When i met exP I confided in him that I had been sexually assaulted and resulting from this had night terrors. He used to hold me after them and tell me everything was going to be okay.

He was emotionally abusive, lying and gaslighting and general manipulation and control. He also left me with a bruised faced, bleeding, and a bloodied nose afrer we broke up from drunken sex.

He's done alot of shit things since and I managed to go no contact. However I'm having awful night terrors about him now.

Aibu to text him to tell him how seriously he damaged me. I'm so lost

OP posts:
gobbynorthernbird · 18/01/2018 18:48

Don't give him a reason to have power over you or an in to manipulate you. Have you done the freedom programme?

YellowFlower201 · 18/01/2018 18:49

Don't contact him!! He won't care any you're just letting him back in.

mrsharrison · 18/01/2018 18:49

Please don't do that. He won't care. He'll be happy he left you so unhappy. The nightmares will fade in time. Turn that pain into anger. Anger is an energy. Use that energy to strive for your own happiness.

Bluelady · 18/01/2018 18:51

Throw your phone off the top of a tall building rather than contact him.

ThisLittleKitty · 18/01/2018 18:52

Agree he will be happy. Whats there to gain from contacting him?

Poshindevon · 18/01/2018 19:04

Why would you want to tell your abusive ex partner how much he has damaged you? It does not make sense. This man is violent and abusive do you think he will say sorry and kiss it all better if you tell him? Of course not !
You need to stay as far away from this man as possible. Listen to all the PPs and take their advice.

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