Check or ignore?

[thikit]

Had an argument with "D"H yesterday and I haven't seen him since, he's still in bed sulking probably ill, he's always "ill" if we have a row. I've had a very productive day cleaning the kitchen, but now I have to decide whether to check that he's still alive , or make dinner for one. It's so lovely and peaceful, just me and the cat!

Cannot believe some people have said cook dinner for him. Why?
He's not been hungry all day, so it will be wasted.
When he stops sulking he should be more than capable of making something for himself.

Cook enough for him as well so there's little extra effort on your part

Like I'd be leaping up to pander to him when he deigned to make an appearance. Not bloody likely!

I've always believed that he can't help it, he sort of goes into himself and hates it if we argue, but some of you are correct, he's like an overgrown toddler.

So he hasn't been to the bathroom all day?
Not got a drink?

That is really pathetic

Cook yourself a nice dinner and enjoy it with the cat

And then possibly think about what you are getting out of this relationship

Ooohh op i used to live with a manchild like this, after reading your post I realised i dont miss this shit lol!
Cook Yourself something mouthwatering, waft the doors so the smell travels upstairs then laugh as he stomps about in a rage because hes starving

Does he do this when he has disagreements with anyone else?

You don't sound particularly happy with him OP!

You haven't seen him since yesterday? Did you sleep in another room then?

Dinner for one, and possibly some dry toast for the invalid; crusts left on, of course.

If he comes downstairs and looks at your food, just say 'I didn't make anything for you as I know you are far too ill to eat' ...

thikit Repeat after me:

We do not reward bad behaviour with attention
We do not reward bad behaviour with attention
We do not reward bad behaviour with attention.

Now order a takeaway or hie thee to the chippy.

I can't abide sulkers -it is so childish and pathetic. I wouldn't pander to it. Make your dinner and enjoy the peace. If he comes down to continue his sulk with an audience go to another room or upstairs until he decides to stop being feeble and talk about it like a grown up. Honestly, sulking makes me so cross! I've dumped a sulker before!

Are you married to Victor Meldrew? Grumpy git. Presumably you have separate bedrooms, I couldn't put up with a miserable OH spending the whole day wallowing in self pity in my bed.

He can be a bit of a Victor Meldrew when the mood takes him, especially about parking, but is generally quite cheerful, unless we argue, then he gets odd.