Help needed 2 potential fathers

[Penny123455]

Help needed!

Hi everyone.

I'm really having a difficult time at the moment and it's really starting to affect me mentally. My last menstrual period was 27 July (28 day cycle) my app told me I was ovulating on 9th August and that's when we had sex early that morning. I had cramping pains that day. On Saturday morning from being out with friends I ended up round an older man's house not knowing what had happened to me and I think he had sex with me. I have had an private ultrasound that put conception date on August 8 and August 9 and my NHS scans that put conception date on August 9 too. It has affected me that much I did a prenatal paternity test in Canada where I got a 99.9 percent that my current partner is the father. Is there anyone that can advise me as I'm 25 weeks now and it's really affecting me as a person and I feel like I can't carry on

The reason I don't want my partner to know is he is so looking forward to this and has been brilliant all the way through this and would destroy him. But I think from my scans the conception date is right

Your partner will of course be upset and angry that you were raped - but if he is decent he will want to support you.

Please get help and allow him to help.

penny I understand worrying about bringing such horrible news to your partner, and if it wasn't affecting you then I could understand not doing so. But your partner is being affected by all this even if you don't tell him, he is probably really worried about why you seem distant odd or different. Why you seem so worried about the pregnancy etc.

Finding out what happened, that you aren't to blame and what you have been going through might well become a positive thing as at least he will be able to support you.

And on the off chance he does turn out to be the kind of asshat that would blame a woman for being raped then its better to know sooner than later.

You need a partner you are able to trust with the big scary horrible stuff ....