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Are you happy with your choice of godparent ?

44 replies

LardLizard · 18/01/2018 00:14

? How’s it all worked out for you ?

I thinking of doing some sort of naming ceremony for my children even though they are not babies

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Camomila · 18/01/2018 10:39

Haha @slimmer I suppose it is a bit of a cringy phrase isn't it....but I grew up in Brighton so I have a very high woo/hippy tolerance!

Scarydinosaurs · 18/01/2018 10:39

I chose mine for religious suitability- I wanted people who would encourage tolerance and spiritual guidance. My husband chose his sisters and their partners. Only one (a partner) is no longer around. I hope my choices work out. So far so good.

WhooooAmI24601 · 18/01/2018 10:41

Yes, our choices from 12 and 7 years ago both still play a huge part of the DCs lives and I hope always will.

There are a lot more no's than I'd have expected on here.

LikeSilver · 18/01/2018 10:52

We had naming ceremonies and called them guide parents.

DD has my sister (great), my cousin (puts a lot of effort in even with distance/busy career), our friend (great) and DH’s brother (pretty useless only sees her at Christmas).

DS has my BIL (sister’s husband - great), our friend’s husband (great), another friend (not great) and DH’s sister (doesn’t even remember his birthday and never sees him).

So maybe just that DH’s family aren’t really bothered? I am godparent to my sister’s boys and guideparent to our friend’s daughter and I try to take it seriously, I was honoured to be asked.

JaceLancs · 18/01/2018 11:04

No!
Chose 3 friends for DD am now only still in touch with one of them
Decided family members were safer when it came to DS who ended up with 4, only still in touch with 2 of them, and of those 2, one has emigrated

Notagainmun · 18/01/2018 11:24

No. DC1 are fine. All either my siblings or DH's. DC2 my sister and her husband are fine but DH's sister and BIL can't stand them, turned out to be partts.

Dalg · 18/01/2018 11:28

Yes, one in particular takes her role as godparent very seriously and had been very good for ds.

Flisspaps · 18/01/2018 11:34

Why would you have a naming ceremony for DC who aren't babies?

Seems a bit like closing the stable door after the horse has bolted...

TheWhisperingSky · 18/01/2018 11:34

Mine don't have godparents. But we've lost touch with the people who I would have asked if we'd had them christened when they were babies. We have some friends who are godparents in all but name. One set is DH's best friend and his wife (DH is godfather to their eldest) and my best friend who I only met once my youngest was 2.

We're not religious so it's all irrelevant anyway. I have written in my will that I would like BIL to keep in contact with these two families if ever he were to get the DC.

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Trashboat · 18/01/2018 12:13

We had a thanksgiving ceremony to appease our catholic mothers who thought dd would be floating round in limbo, if heaven forbid, something happened to her and she hadn't been accepted into gods church. Fucking bizarre, but hey ho.

We had no godparents and don't regret it at all.

Our godparents erm, don't remember them. Same for my siblings.

I am godparent to my niece, which is nice. We are close. But not cos of the godparent situation.

It's all a bit daft.

Renouncing the devil and all that.

Fuckyourhobnobs · 18/01/2018 12:24

It's a no from me, especially after seeing the blood shed that results in DH's large Catholic family over who should be godparents to each successive child

MotherofaSurvivor · 18/01/2018 12:44

Not anymore. They don't bother to see her. Ever. She has no idea who they are!!

Paddington68 · 18/01/2018 12:48

My own were/are aunties and uncles and I think that's a bit pants, as they are aunties and uncles to all my other cousins too, obviously.

I am a Godparent to my friends' little boy and treat him and his sister the same, although I am not her godparent.
I was delighted and honoured to be asked. He is 5 and knows who is Godparents are and that his mommy and daddy picked four people to especially support him all his life. He has recently asked me which bedroom he gets if he leaves home and if I die does he get my Lego collection.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 18/01/2018 12:49

Yes and no. Godparents that were my friends are great. The ones from xdhs side stopped with birthdays and Christmas the minute we split up. Which seemed harsh. Whichever way arse hole xdh had spun it my dd was already very upset by her father's behaviour and rejection without God parents adding to it.

StickThatInYourPipe · 18/01/2018 12:49

I was a curse on mine! Both happy couples divorced within 6 months of becoming my god parents Grin

StickThatInYourPipe · 18/01/2018 12:49

The smile is for the joke of me being a curse, not the separations!

BoredOnMatLeave · 18/01/2018 12:57

The one I chose (my bestfriend) absolutely the right choice.
The one DP chose (bestfriend and wife)... maybe! They are great with DD but they are the sort to get bored in a couple of years and start forgetting birthdays etc

TittyGolightly · 18/01/2018 13:02

Why would you have a naming ceremony for DC who aren't babies?

We held DD’s on her 2nd birthday because:

  1. It was about her - we wanted her to be able to participate
  2. We could talk about her character and personality and not just note her existence
  3. It fell on a weekend
  4. It was something friends and family far away would travel for (most of our families are hundreds of miles away and it always fell on us to travel).
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