to go ARRGGGGHHHHH when dh asks me. Again. Am i ok?

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when he asked me earlier and i told him i'm feeling low. and why.

and then half an hour later he asked me are you ok? i said you know he said no what, i said we talked about it! and i told him again.

an hour later he asked me, in very concerned voice - are you ok?

and he's just asked me again!!!!! and he really is concerned because he doesnt know whats wrong...

IT'S THE SAME THING I TOLD HIM 17 TIMES ALREADY. I FEEL LOW!!!!!!

he asks like he hasnt asked before. does he think its going to be something else? something new?

and when i got mad, he said ok ok ok, sorry for asking [offended]

WTF is that about??!! he does it all the time.

it's the same thing it was when you asked an hour ago----ARRGGHHHH

Well, yes....

He is obviously concerned for you and wants to make sure you are okay, and make you better. Clearly he just doesnt know how to do that.

Sounds like he just cares alot for you my lovely. Ask him for a hug.

It is hard when someone you love feels low though, you want to fix it, and you want them to tell you exactly what you can do to make them feel better - even though that's not possible. And its hard for men as they find it difficult to just empathise, they need to be able to provide solutions.

I am with QV - give him a way in, something to do for you, a hug, the washing up, a back massage - let him feel more than helpless...

you're right. i am being unreasonable. and a cow. to a lovely man.

its just he keeps asking - and acts like it's news to him! i could cope better if he asked if i was feeling any better/worse or in some way refered to the fact i already told him. half an hour ago!

at least he asks

he obviously cares alot and is probably feeling quite usless and unable to help.

maybe he doesn't mean 'are you ok?' as meaning 'tell me your problems' but as 'how can i help?'

and he asks me "whats the matter?" at the same time. HE KNOWS! I TOLD HIM!!

you are all right of course. poor man, saddled with a barnpot!

What IS the matter? How exactly do you feel and do you have any idea why?

It is reasonable to ask tbh.

don't be silly, he wouldn't care so much if you didn't deserve it so you must be a lovely person to deserve this leval of concern from him

im a nut job aloha(its in chat!)

poor bloke, he's sat miserably eating toast. i am going now to give him a big cuddle and some much deserved tlc.

god i love him, he is really really really special.

ta all btw, you're lovely xx thanks for the kick up the bum.

You are not unreasonable btw - if you feel like that you are naturally going to be peed at whatever he does - so give him something positive to do for you to stop the asking. (I keep a secret list of stuff for him to do when he is feeling that attentive!! )