AIBU about self identification?

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www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2015/nov/12/gayle-newland-sentenced-eight-years-prison-duping-friend-having-sex

So if the woman above who is serving 8 years in prison for pretending to be a man self identified as a man then would she have done anything wrong?

I wonder if people think trans people should tell prospective partners about their trans status and if so at what point? If a trans woman is a real woman should she tell men she picks up in a bar for example? Is there any need to do so or is it irrelevant?

AIBU to think that being trans is a very important part of your history and prospective partners should always be told?

I think full dislcosure of all sorts of things is really important for informed consent.

For example, in the current spycops case, women are campaigning about the lying dicks undercover policemen who duped them into intimate relationships (even in some cases children), while not being truthful about anything, including their real names, their real jobs, why they were having these relationships, nothing.

Consent is key, so yes, I'd expect anyone to tell me anything about their history that a reasonable person would think important, including if they identified as trans.

Consent is key, so yes, I'd expect anyone to tell me anything about their history that a reasonable person would think important, including if they identified as trans.

Definitely agree with this.

I wonder if people think trans people should tell prospective partners about their trans status and if so at what point?

I would say extremely early in the relationship. Sometimes it doesn;t need to be said as such as its obvious but if 'passing' then it should be disclosed as early as possible. Unfortunately a lot of 'transgender' people seem to disagree, as I have a lot of friend (all lesbians) who9 have had issues with this. more in a one night stand kind of setting that relationship, but these passing transwomen are not disclosing they have a penis until they are alone with the lesbian. At which stage it can be extremely dangerous for the woman who is alone with a horny male to say 'no, I am a lesbian' (even though the transwomen knew these women were lesbians before that stage and tried to push their luck anyway)

So yeah, as early as possible, and immediately if sexual relations are on the table at all.

In the cases of my friends..well it definitely should have been said before they were alone together in an intimate setting.

I have decided to self identify as a brown bear and hibernate all winter from now on. Any claims from work that I should not be able to do that will be met by claims of discrimination.