To not be much of a people person?

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In the padt i have been too nice which has led me to be bullued at svhool, by men and frebenies.

Im not very astute and find it gard to read people until its too late.
I hate office politics and i prefwr to have a small number of colleagues.

I used to have lots of friends but they have mostly drifted off whuch is fine as u prefer having a small number of close friends.

I hate cliques and i rarely end up in one anyway.

I rate about 3 people : dd, dp and my late grandad.

I do sound like a grumpy old git but in the past i have been friendly and open and i just got burned.

Am i on the spectrum or is it normal to find people hard work and wish to get away from them?!

Typos are awful...phone sorry. Hope you can read the above atrocity!

By frenemies that should read.

I'm the same. I can't be bothered making the effort as I find most people bitchy and boring. I don't think it means you're on the spectrum just fed up with people's shite

Not just me then. The bitchyness is just sooo unecessary!

Me too, I'm more introvert than extravert and usually find other people hard work. In general I'm vaguely friendly to most people but, apart from family, don't have close friends. Really hate cliques.

same here, i dont think its

posted too soon

i dont think its a problem unless you are also nasty and selfish. im very giving and selfless, but i prefer to keep to myself and just certain friends/family members. generally speaking i dont like the way people are such sheep, like something becomes trendy or cool and the start doing it/buying it, no matter what.

Me too! I have two close friends who I don't see much of...my DH and DC...my inlaws are ok.

We're seriously looking at moving to quite a remote place and I'll like it....the idea of being alone with nobody near me is great.

I don’t think it’s compulsory to be a ‘people person’ although it can feel like that at times, what with the growth and prevalence of social media.

I think most people suck and can’t be arsed with them, or hearing about what they had for breakfast or how regularly their bowels move. So I just don’t do Facebook or twitter any more.

You’re not alone in this feeling, op.

I’m the same.

I like most people and it’s not really that I feel I’ve been ‘burned’. I just find too much people-contact exhausting.

I love solitude. I'd be a hermit if I could, I'm surrounded by a wonderful family and friends. It doesn't make sense, but I have severe anxiety.

I think i get hurt quite easily. I love my dad for example but he was quite horrid to me when i got my dp ( weird) as it was a loss of control for him. Among other nasty things hes done. But he can be nice too.
I dont get on with my sis as my mum succesfully created a black sheep/ golden child dynamic.
I think if your own family are horrid what chance does anyone else have?!
im not perfect btw!

I think its worrying that i dont like most people...im always worried what they will do next!

Same here. Had a massive tantrum today in front of someone I care about and think
Is a lovely friend but it's all too much. I don't want people at such close quarters. I can't handle it very well and end up feeling this constant rage beneath the surface because I'm a people pleaser and don't feel comfortable telling people straight if I'm hacked off. It actually simmers into panic attack level loss of control if something triggers me. DH is the only one on the planet who usually knows how to handle me. Others think they do but don't realise they don't because I'm too polite to say

Just wondering what you do/have done for work in the past?
I now have a job where I am forced to interact with multiple people every day and be involved with some of the most intimate details of their lives. I now no longer care about the intimate details of my friends lives. I think how much of a people person you are can very much depend on how much you have left to give. Maybe you are just someone who gives a lot to your closest relationships.

I'm glad to hear I'm not alone in feeling like this. I'm super suspicious of people and find many people are out for themselves. I don't have the time to invest in people in general. I think it just depends on who you come across through life. Of course there are nice people out there. But I find people very draining most of the time.

I teach...say no more!

I find people really hard work and annoying. Funnily enough, when I was working as cabin crew it was okay as you just stepped into the flight attendant persona for the shift! Plus your colleagues and passengers changed every flight.

Working in an office with annoying people is far worse.

I think tomato has it spot on. I ‘give’ and am cheerful/friendly/caring/interested so much at work that I don’t think I have anything left for everyday life (apart from DC’s and immediate family) and end up forcing myself. Luckily I have a sil who is a teacher and feels exactly the same so I know we are all not abnormal! She is my lobster