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To ask for your OLD disasters? [Edited by MNHQ]

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buddhasbelly · 16/01/2018 23:46

I had posted this on another thread but it made me laugh at the dire response someone gave me....

Oh and daily mail please F off as feel this might have DM written all over it - I had matched with a guy on my dating app, I sent him a msg to say he was wearing a great Christmas jumper in his profile pic. This was his response...

Anyone else got a terrible msg to make me feel that it's not just me! (I do have a date this weekend with someone who seems lovely!)

To ask for your OLD disasters? [Edited by MNHQ]
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Twinkleheth · 17/01/2018 01:19

OD is Online Dating and I’m thinking that OLD might be because those who never have used online dating due to it not being around when they last dated - are OLD.

StupidSlimyGit · 17/01/2018 01:23

Coming up to Christmas, I'd been chatting to a guy who seemed lovely. Knew I had a toddler, and wanted to take things very slow, seemed fine with it. 1:30am on a Wednesday morning he woke me up calling me. I didn't answer then found he had sent me this followed by an invite for coffee Hmm needless to say I never met up with him.

To ask for your OLD disasters? [Edited by MNHQ]
Mummyme1987 · 17/01/2018 01:28

A friend of mine had a bloke claim he was part of a bi twosome looking for action, he asked her if she had ever had two bi guys? She answered, no but I have had 3 cream eggs at once!

TroubledTribble28 · 17/01/2018 01:37

I met an asshole from Reading. He invited me on a date to a football match and then got the hump because I didn't offer to pay for to ticket.

TroubledTribble28 · 17/01/2018 01:38

The* typo Blush

thegreatbeyond · 17/01/2018 02:12

I think the OP's 'gentleman' is doing 'negging'. It seems he wanted to annoy her deliberately, hoping to get her attention.

splatattack · 17/01/2018 02:17

I kinda liked this gem of an OLD message...

To ask for your OLD disasters? [Edited by MNHQ]
hodgeheg92 · 17/01/2018 02:32

Can I give you a bit of hope instead of a funny story?

I'm currently up feeding my 4 day old baby girl, who I share with my DH. We met online just under 4 years ago. He was the 10th person I met through OD. Some of the others were a bit Hmm but I didn't meet anyone horrid. Definitely had my fair share of stupid messages but I can't remember the specifics now.

BattleCuntGalactica · 17/01/2018 02:47

This is something I got a few years ago. I've kept it for posterity naturally. I need to find my other examples, only managed to find that one.

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BattleCuntGalactica · 17/01/2018 03:25

Dammit the picture didn't attach. Here it is..

To ask for your OLD disasters? [Edited by MNHQ]
TheSassyAssassin · 17/01/2018 07:18

Loving your reply Battle! I would have mentioned it's sight and not site too Wink

Also had fair share of OLD nonsense but most worrying was when after googling someone to check he was who he said he was, realised he went by a diff surname too (which he hadn't told me about). Googled that. Found out he had convictions for assault against women! Needless to say I didn't meet him Shock

MNHQ
LornaMumsnet · 17/01/2018 09:01

Hi folks,

We're just nipping in to edit the title! Flowers

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buddhasbelly · 17/01/2018 09:29

Thanks Lorna Smile

Thesassy i checked out the guy I'm meeting this weekend after reading your post, still seeming normal phew!

thegreatbeyond i hadn't heard of nagging thanks for that

hodge you have given me some hope!

battle your reply is fantastic!

splat he says sense of humour /I say vile...tomato/tomato...

stupid i have a 4 yr old, the weekend guy has yet to send me a creepy msg.

Thank you for the stories guys, it's not just me that's had dire experiences phew!

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Goldenbug · 17/01/2018 09:42

The chaps who say they "like 'em big" in response to my pictures are not that endearing. Similarly, the one who said he'd like to be intimate with me (not his exact words Wink) and finished with "I'll sort you out some money".

cantthinkofasinglegoodusername · 17/01/2018 10:25

Years ago I was talking to a guy who seemed really lovely and sweet. I thought it was going well and was quite hopeful.
We were texting and he seemed as normal as usual. Then he started trying to take it somewhere sexual and sent me a photo of his hard on!!! I was Shock
Why do men do this? I don't want a bloody dick pic! Penis' aren't exactly bloody attractive either.

BattleCuntGalactica · 17/01/2018 10:33

I can't find the screenshot I have of an older bloke who said I needed a good hiding - I'm very assertive and he didn't like it.

Anyway the crux of it was that I told him he was welcome to try - but also that I kept two large bull-breed dogs, of which i fed a raw diet, and that i was happy to start by feeding them his fingers.

Oddly enough, he didn't respond after that.

barefoofdoctor · 17/01/2018 10:40

BY has great fun taking the piss out of the weirdos who flock to her. Makes for hilarious anecdotes but made me realise how pearl clutch I am about blokes just asking outright for sex. The obvious catfishing ones (learned this term yesterday!) Is the best. 'Don't tell me you're a Nigerian Prince and need £100 egg egg. Quite tempting to partake except men repulse me in a dating capacity so couldn't face it.

splatattack · 17/01/2018 10:48

Also, did anyone else ever receive a message asking if they wanted to be an escort? My pics are very very vanilla but I still got a few of those Shock

Flowerpot1234 · 17/01/2018 11:05

So so so many hilarious, disturbing incidents and OMG moments.

But on a serious note, I had a 2 year relationship with a man who proposed several times. I held off accepting because his behaviour was erratic and numerous other concerns which he put down to ongoing mental health issues. Quite how erratic I only discovered later after I finally finished the relationship to discover that he had lied about every aspect of his life except a famous family ancestor. He had lied about medical conditions and his mental health, all his appointments to resolve it (there was no 'it', he hadn't attended any), his family, what his friends had done, what his friends had said, he had fabricated email addresses from his friends etc and lied about overseas business trips that he had never made. I also discovered he had at least 11 OLD profiles active and he was using these throughout our 2 years together. I have no idea how many other women he was seeing and proposing to during our 2 years together.

I heard through the grapevine he married a woman just a matter of months after I ended our relationship and after proposing again to me.

I wonder if she has any idea what she has got into...

AntiHop · 17/01/2018 11:13

splat what a fucking weird message!

Keep up the hope all. I met my dp through OLD. just don't waste any time or any one who comes across as an idiot. Don't give anyone the benefit of the doubt!

Drivemecrazy1974 · 17/01/2018 11:25

See, I'd have just laughed at that response and kept the conversation going! If he'd carried on in the sexist tone then I would have blocked him, but otherwise, I would have just assumed it was a silly attempt at humour! I feel a bit sorry for people these days, every comment, every joke is taken far too seriously!!

Estellanpip · 17/01/2018 14:52

How about the guy who found my Instagram account, went through alllllll my photos, saved the ones I was pregnant in, then forwarded the photos of myself to me, telling me he has a pregnancy fetish and appraising every photo.
He also sent me a photo of every room in his house as if to impress me, told me how he spent days crying whenever he thought about his favourite deceased racing driver, followed swiftly by sickening, graphic photos of the fatal injuries said driver received.
When I declined offers to meet or reply back, he sent me a furious text about how I'd wasted his time, women are all 'messers and timewasters' and how all women want 'bad boys' and not 'nice guys' like him.

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buddhasbelly · 17/01/2018 17:10

Wow estella that's on another level.

Yup agree the guy in my OP night have just been trying to make a joke but meh, if I'm not on board win his humour, he might as well save it for someone who is!

As an aside the guy I'm meeting this weekend seems to be in the same wavelength as me humour wise! not getting hoped up too high

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derangedmermaid · 17/01/2018 17:15

When i joined plenty of fish I received seventy five messages asking if I did anal in the first three days.

And then had a date with someone who was twenty years older than he had said he was...

Yay me

gunsandbanjos · 17/01/2018 17:22

Not my story but a guy I went on one date with.
He went on a date and halfway through the lady pointed out her husband sitting at the bar and said they were looking for ‘company’.