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Exh & Holiday

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noidea2018 · 16/01/2018 20:45

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Exh and I separated (physically not legally) up over his unreasonable behaviour June 2016. Our DS is now 13 months. He has contact (reluctantly from him although he won't admit it) with DS every Saturday morning for 2 hours. I offered more he wasn't interested.

A few months ago, he told me him and his family wanted to take DS away for a week for a family wedding. I asked details and he told me, we discussed it. He said there wasn't any pressure I could think about it and we'd talk about it at a later date. I since found out nearly ALL the details he told me about this holiday was a lie and that in fact him and ex mil had actually booked it (including DS) weeks before talking to me about it.

Lots of things have happened since then, but the holiday has never been mentioned again. They are going in April.

I am really not happy with them taking him, as exh has never had DS alone for more than an hour before, their flight is 5 hours and he will probably be distracted with the wedding to actually watch ds (swimming pool, supervision etc) he is on birth certificate etc and we are still legally married but does anyone know if I would have a stand to prevent DS from going? TIA

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ADishBestEatenCold · 16/01/2018 23:09

What country are they flying to for the wedding, noidea? Is it a holiday destination, or do they have family there?

noidea2018 · 16/01/2018 23:14

@bastardkitty that's what I'm currently doing. At the time I never said yes or no, partly because I was too shocked to learn the truth and partly for the reason you've stated, if it gets left too long there won't be enough time to go through the court.

The 2 hour contact time is weird, it was originally 1 night mid week and 1 hour Saturday, but when I went back to work the midweeks Just weren't working so I suggested changing it to Just saturdays but specified no limits. Contact us always at mine (for various reasons) so when he's here with DS I go off and do whatever (rarely leave although sometimes pop to the local shop etc) to leave them to have time together, but I regularly come back and find ExH standing with his shoes and coat on ready to leave after roughly 1.25/1.30/1.75 hours and Just leaves Hmm

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noidea2018 · 16/01/2018 23:15

Adish it's Greece - holiday location. He specifically mentioned it being 'a family friendly hotel' to try and get me to agree to it at first, hence my concerns about the swimming pool etc etc

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bastardkitty · 16/01/2018 23:16

He sounds dreamy Wink

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