Knife in left hand?

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I am right handed but when I eat I hold my knife in my left hand and fork in right, so in theory like a left hander. This often means I switch them when in a restaurant etc. It's never caused me any grief or bother. My dh always points it out as the 'wrong' way to eat and it winds me up. One of my dc also has randomly adopted this as well as was holding his knife in the left hand. My husband pointed this out and said it's the wrong way to eat and that he should switch it over. I got annoyed as there is no technical 'wrong or right' way. He eats what ever way he is comfortable. I then said that if he was left handed should he be forced to write with his left hand as that is the dominant way in society? He said that that is different . AIBU in just letting my dc get on with it?

You don't eat the opposite way because you are left handed.

How many people here play cards left handed ? And have noticed that 2-pip cards are invariably right handed ?

I wouldn’t care which hand anyone holds their knife in.

But please don’t hold it in a pencil grasp ...
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I am right handed but hold me knife in my left hand. Same with my dc, presumably because I taught them to use a knife snd fork. I can't believe people would judge this. Would they judge someone who wrote with their left hand, or played tennis with their left hand?

My DH is the first person I met who does it your way, OP. Then I met his family, they are all the same and I'm the odd one out. Apparently in the Islamic faith, which they all follow, you are to feed yourself with your right hand, also give and take money with only your right hand. Very important apparently.
Interesting!

I am left-handed - always have been and it is my hand of choice.
I eat with knife in right hand, fork in left hand - taught that way
When I am eating pudding with a spoon or cake with a cake fork (I am a tidy cake eater ) which one does single handedly I use my right hand.
I find it more shocking when people eat with their mouth open (and talk) rather than which hand holds which utensil.
I am also amazed how americans eat - use a knife to cut up - then a fork to baby-feed themselves. But to each their own I guess.

You don't eat the opposite way because you are left handed

Really? Why do i then?

Im right handed but eat left handed as you do. My son is the same. It just makes sense to us to eat that way. No big deal. Dh eats righthanded. I always lay the table per lefthanded depite knowing this isnt the 'norm' - just second nature to me.

It really isnt a big deal and mrs evil art teacher piss orf and leave my DS alone as his table manners are impeccable so stop bullying him

I was intrigued to learn recently that handedness isn't a protected characteristic ... which means that left handers (or indeed right handers) can be told to go whistle by a nasty employer ...

There are 5 of us in our house. 3 righties, 2 lefties. The righties eat like you and the lefties the opposite way. Go figure!!!

There are 5 of us in our house. 3 righties, 2 lefties.

40% higher than average !

I would judge you if I saw you holding your knife in your left hand - sorry.

Once again I'm astonished at the lengths people will go to feel superior...

Is it possible that he just hates looking at it? I know rationally that it makes no difference to me but just thinking about it is making my eye twitch. As for writing, the reason why you are supposed to write with your right hand is because, when writing in English, writing with your left can cause ink to smudge/get your hand dirty. If you try to compensate by holding your pen differently/writing differently the penmanship suffers. Obviously that's not much of an issue these days what with computers and all but that's the rationale for forcing lefties to write with their right hand. There may be a similar reason for eating the 'proper' way although I really can't think of anything. Maybe because-before the popularisation of the fork, if you only ate with a knife and held the food in place with your other hand in place while you cut keeping the knife in your right hand meant that your right hand stayed clean for shaking hands and then the custom of using the right to hold your knife carried on?

I'm right handed though I suspect a fair way on the spectrum towards left handed and I'm left eye dominant. I eat with my cutlery the "wrong" way and honestly wish it had been spotted and corrected when I was small. By the time I recognised I was doing it differently to everyone else in my teens it was too late to re-learn. I don't give it much thought now though sometimes feel it's not "proper" if anyone comments on it. However the only time it's ever actually been an issue was when I could not use a fish knife in a smart restaurant once.

Obviously that's not much of an issue these days what with computers and all

I am still puzzled that there are no left handed pianos for the pianists who must suffer ... after all we have left handed guitars and clarinets and drum kits ...

It is the wrong way in regard to traditional table manners.

I did this when I was a child till I was about 10. I learnt to do it the 'proper' way.

You should encourage your son to eat with fork in left and knife in right. If I saw an adult in a restaurant eating with cultlery the wrong way round, I would definitely notice and would judge their poor manners.

However, there are many adults who eat in much worse ways than holding cutlery in the wrong hands. Some just eat with a fork or with fingers, which I find quite disgusting.

You would judge what about their poor manners tho? That's what i don't understand about the 'i would judge them' comments. You would judge them as what? Rude? Uneducated? Stupid? Common?

You would judge them as what?

Left handed ?

I'm pretty sure Bill Bryson says thats how its done in the US. It has nothing to do with poor manners.

MrsTiggyWinkle3 Poor table manners is not the same thing as etiquette.

Poor table manners are things like eating with the mouth open, being messy, etc. Using a knife in the left hand is just etiquette, nothing to do with actual manners.

And traditions change, they are not immutable.

I'm stronger in my left hand so cut with it. Always have

My husband eats the same way and is right handed, my daughter on the other hand is left handed but holds her cutlery the other was (so knife in her right had).
You use things how you are comfortable using them.

I'm pretty sure Bill Bryson says thats how its done in the US. It has nothing to do with poor manners.

Indeed - they were taught to eat that way by British colonialists. The continent has since switched to eating the current way.

I used cutlery left handed as a child - I am ambidextrous - but was corrected to use then the right handed way. Now I am very awkward with cutlery. My son is also partly ambidextrous and I always let him use them whatever way was most comfortable - he uses them left handed (ditto scissors)

Why on earth would anyone 'judge' over that ? I'd judge someone who was so uptight and shallow that they cared about such things. Get a bloody grip (left or right handed whichever you prefer )

I do this. It drives my mum alike the wall (i’m 47) but I find it preferable to fingers.