Who's got the worst EX?

[Lemondrizzlee]

Inspired by another thread I read on here about the worst MIL. So who's got the worst ex? I feel like based on how he is as a person and certain things he's said my STBXH will use the kids against me, to sort of punish me for leaving once I move out and basically make my life difficult.

Mine ignored DS for 9 years, then wrote me an email rewriting history and basically demanded that DS (who he hadn't seen since he was a year old) had a father/son relationship with him.

I didn't have the words to respond.

He also left me in oodles of debt, told bailiffs he lived a my new flat so they came a knocking to take my belongings and has never paid any child support.

He also turned my own parents against me.

I suspect he's far from the worst here though.

2 bad exs.
1st was a nutter, stalked me for years after our relationship ended. When I broke up with him (in college as I was afraid to do it anywhere else!) he punched through the window and got tackled by loads of catering students in their whites, held down until police arrived. Caused more than a scene.
2nd... Just a waste of space really. Hardly ever sees DD, tells everyone he see's her "when he can" which is total BS. No financial support, he was also an abusive a hole. Honestly part of me hopes he'll just vanish for another few months except this time will never return

Guy used to breakup with me when he was drunk. Said he didn't feel anything when I cried. Told me that he wasn't going to to nice things for him so maybe I should stop doing them for him cus he felt bad. Told me I wasn't a priority. Called me an 8 year old who wanted constant attention. Sexually assaulted me after breakup.

"Honestly part of me hopes he'll just vanish for another few months except this time will never return"
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This.
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Sometimes I wish I never had kids with him, so that I'd never have to see or deal with him again. Wish I could just block him and move on.

I have. We had to change our names to be safe.

My exH was physically, mentally and financially abusive. Spent most of our money on drugs. Got me into a lot of debt which has destroyed my credit rating.

The day I finally left him he almost threw me into a road, ripped a necklace off my neck, called me a whore and threatened me with a knife. Then he lied to all our friends, our landlord and social services about me and left me stranded hundreds of miles away from all my family support, with no job, no money, no home and 2 DC's (one of whom is severely disabled).

Never paid a penny in child support. Moved to the other end of the country. He's seen the dc's 5 times in 5 years and has since had another baby with his new fiancée. He's never bought a birthday or Christmas present for them but will get his fiancée to bung £100 in a card that he can't even be arsed to sign.

But he will of course wax lyrical to anyone who will listen that I am the evil bitch who ruined his life and he couldn't possibly do any more to see his DC's .

He is certainly not the worst there is though! In a way I'm grateful that he is basically out of our lives and we don't have to see or deal with him very much. He did us a favour in that respect

Many people on here have been through horrific experiences with exes.

Some, myself included, are still living with the physical and mental scars of the abuse we suffered, or are still suffering.

'Who's got the worst ex?' is an insensitive and ignorant question to ask. It is not a competition.

'Who's got the worst ex?' is an insensitive and ignorant question to ask. It is not a competition.

It is a bit, but people don't think.

My ex is a total waste of space. He told his family when he walked out on me that I had initiated the break up. A total lie. He also made out to his family that I was stopping him from seeing our DD. Another lie,he made no attempt to see her,despite me offering him numerous opportunities to do so. He also said that I had turned our DD against him with a load of lies about him. No,HE turned her against him all by himself with his total lack of interest in her. And he lied to me about there being no one else involved. There was and had been for several months. Added to all this,he walked out on me when I was just beginning to recover from being seriously ill for 4 months,and left with a permanent disability as a result of the illness. I had been in hospital for weeks at a time while I was ill,and during this time,he was shagging another woman. Which explained why he was always making excuses not to visit me. Then there was the mountain of debt he left me in,mainly rent arrears and council tax,which he had not paid for 3 months. (He had been hiding the threatening letters from me). He preferred to spend the money on his other woman and booze. So a week after he left,I was dealing with a threatened eviction order and bailiffs demanding hundreds of pounds for unpaid council tax. It was a nightmare. Thankfully,a couple of years later,he buggered off to live abroad and once our divorce came through,he married his OW. We haven't seen him since,thank goodness.

'Who's got the worst ex?' is an insensitive and ignorant question to ask. It is not a competition.

Well people won't answer if they don't want to. Those that do probably enjoy a chance to rant. This is not an offensive thread so why do you feel the need steam on to dish out a Telling Off?

I'd love a chance to rant about my ex, I've exhausted RL sounding boards. However I can't be bothered to name change and my story is particularly, er, colourful!

MsGameandWatching I said that I found the thread to be insensitive, I didn't give anyone a telling off.

I find the subject of the thread unnecessary and very immature.

Although having an opinion about the thread is better than just commenting that you want to say something but can't be bothered!

But I didn't say that. I said I couldn't be bothered to name change. Do you see the difference? I don't remember my password and I am on the app, so you see not an easy task

Spiritof.. I'm really sorry, I didn't think of it that way. The thing is I'm gonna be on the other side soon when I leave DH, so I just wanted to hear peoples stories of the things they went through when they left their DH/DP, and how nasty some exes can be etc.

I know realise I might have reopened some old wounds, sorry. Hope MNHQ delete this thread.

lemon some people did post. I would have myself if I could remember my password. Please don't feel like you did anything wrong