I left my ex two years ago with my then five year old. Ex was abusive to both of us in a number of ways and now he is trying to take me to court to have custody of my kid for half of the school holidays (i.e summer, easter, october break Christmas etc). He seems to think that he's going to get it, he also seems to think that he maybe has a chance of getting full custody at some point in my kids life.
I've had it on good authority that he'll be lucky to get access through a contact center once a week. But what's been bothering me is the fact that he always has to be right and thinks that he is going to win because he says he's studied law (which he hasn't) and is excited to be able to be given the chance to put his 'studies' in to good use.
He just simply has no clue on how to raise a child - or indeed the expense of raising a child - he wouldn't think twice about spending £1000 on a pair of speakers for his hi-fi, but to pay £100 for some new clothes for his kid is far too much money and feels ripped off by this, he also feels that £10 a week is far too much to be paying for 'his god given right' to eat and that food should be either free or nearly free. This also applys to utillity bills - again - these should be almost free too. The man is just an absolute joke of a man.
He really makes me laugh with his corrospondence with his solicitor - now there was a lot and I mean A LOT that did go on in the form of abuse - where the authorities had to step in and put my kid on the child protection - now this is the good bit - he's got the cheek to deny it - why the hell would I make it up? I get there are people out there that DO do these things for attention - but I'm not one of them. He's making out that all my 'alligations' are not true and he's the loving - caring father that he's just sooo obviously NOT, and that he's the poor little helpless victim of his ex running off with his kid and making up wee porkies to stop him seeing his kid.
Sigh, I really do just want this guy out my life. He's taking up sooo much time and negetive energy that I don't have any more.
I suppose I'm not posting this to look for answers or reassurance (though some of that would be helpful right about now), I suppose this is going up to have that little rant to get things of my chest and clear my head before D-Day in court arrives.
It just really pieves me off that you have fathers like this that say they are good dads when they aren't and sit wondering why they don't get to see their kids when there are dads out there that have done genuinly nothing wrong and the mrs is stopping them seeing the kids and these dads have done nothing but bend over backwards to provide for their kids and it still isn't good enough. I'm wishing that my kid's dad were like that right now - then maybe he wouldn't still be obsessing over the break - up TWO YEARS LATER.
Can ANYone else relate? Just feels like it never ends some times.
Well folks thanks for taking the time to read and thanks muchly for letting me have my little rant and hope that I didn't bore you all too much.