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To think this will go against ex

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Alwaysaspiring · 15/01/2018 08:50

Ex and I recently separated.

We came to a temporary arrangement that he would have DC from Friday to Sunday Eve, every weekend. This week ex has been ill, DC had a cold also but hadn't seen ex. DC was very keen to see ex so I checked to see the arrangement was still going ahead and let him know DC had a cold. He said yes.

Over the weekend DC cold has slightly worsened, nothing horrendous just a bit more snotty and coughing. Ex asked how he was this morning, I said it was a bad night but DC was ok other than the symptoms. Ex called me a 'stupid fucking cunt', because I let DC stay with him and next time ex is ill (quite a lot in winter) he doesn't want DC coming as he will obviously make him ill. I asked what happens when I'm ill then? Surely DC would catch that too? He didn't really answer except more foul abuse.

So now we are about to go for divorce I'm just wondering whether in any agreement for dc I can mention this little fact? And would it have a negative impact on ex's claim for access/custody? Especially as he threatened to get total custody of DC.

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MrTrebus · 15/01/2018 08:53

I think you need to ask your solicitor. Maybe start recording any phone calls like this, the issue seems to be his anger problem rather than not wanting to see DC when they are ill. But also yes he can't possibly have full custody if he doesn't want to see them when they're ill. He sounds like a right twat.

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