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To find this behaviour odd?

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Busybeesbutt · 14/01/2018 21:42

I have a very odd relative who does odd things but I've noticed one thing she does and I think wtf?!?
I've been married for 6 years. Over Xmas she asked me when I got engaged! She came to our wedding. When I reminded her I was already married she said oh yeah.

She says to my brothers wife 'oh here is brothers girlfriend oops wife' in a stupid voice.

Is there a reason for this behaviour?

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frasier · 14/01/2018 21:45

Is she married herself?

Perhaps she's jealous Confused

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Busybeesbutt · 14/01/2018 21:46

No she's not married. I just find it odd

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Bluntness100 · 14/01/2018 21:46

How old is she, could she be going senile? Is there other worrying forgetfulness?

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Busybeesbutt · 14/01/2018 21:47

She's done it for years she's only in her 40s

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Trashboat · 14/01/2018 21:47

I've just posted on your other tgread but basically said the same thing as bluntness

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Busybeesbutt · 14/01/2018 21:49

I know I posted twice by mistake. Mobile froze I'll ask mumsnet to delete other thread

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frasier · 14/01/2018 22:01

My second suggestion was that, if not married, she had met someone and was giddy with excitement and wanted people to talk about engagements and marriage... but if she's done it for years, guess not.

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Busybeesbutt · 14/01/2018 22:38

It has literally been years Frasier. It's so odd

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Mumto2two · 14/01/2018 22:53

My sil who's also in her 40s does things like this all the time. But it's not that she's senile, it's because she's so wrapped up in her own bubble, that she genuinely does not acknowledge things that have happened or are happening in other people's lives.
For instance...when DD was born, first of the siblings to have a child, she visited here on some (most unwelcome) backpacking jolly shortly after DD was born, and much to my annoyance, stayed here for a few days and created her usual selfish mess etc. Three months later, she could not remember even being here, and 8 years on, still insists she never saw DD until she was 2.
I also had a late miscarriage, and she 'forgot' that I was ever even pregnant...I really could continue..but some people really are so lacking in empathy and basic perception, that they simply don't notice what's around them. Could this be her perhaps??

LemonysSnicket · 14/01/2018 23:37

She doesn’t like you, maybe?

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Busybeesbutt · 15/01/2018 00:58

I don't care if she dislikes me really. I dislike some people I don't act all weird

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Greensleeves · 15/01/2018 01:00

I'd probably ask her about it. Not the most tactful approach, but it would grate on me too much if she's been doing it for years. Assuming there isn't a cognitive impairment, it's really bloody rude.

MotherofaSurvivor · 15/01/2018 01:00

What else does she do/say OP? X

LineysRunt · 15/01/2018 01:06

If she was at your wedding, that's really odd.

PastaOfMuppets · 15/01/2018 02:17

I'd ask her if she is losing her memory every time to make her snap out of it.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 15/01/2018 02:22

Yeah I would say she’s jealous or holding on to some perceived snarky remark about it all from long ago. Does she think you made a big deal about being a “Mrs” or something?

Does she do it with other stuff?

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Busybeesbutt · 15/01/2018 11:36

She's generally a bit odd. She lacks social skills alot. She's very loud and says inappropriate things. I don't think i made a big deal of getting married

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derangedmermaid · 15/01/2018 11:37

Maybe she's just weird.
DPs Mum is like this. I cannot for the life of me Work her out.

I don't go around there. If I had to I just would ignore her. It's simple.

ushuaiamonamour · 15/01/2018 11:43

Mumto2two I can easily see myself forgetting that you'd been pregnant and that I'd met your DD when she was a baby, just as I've forgotten that one acquaintances's wife had died or that a friend had caught his DP in bed with another woman. But then I also forget what colour my front door is and what age I am and whether I've been to town in the past week. I'm absolutely not lacking in empathy, I'm fond of both that acquaintance and that friend, and I'm not senile. I suppose it's a matter of being like one of those cartoon characters who hasn't taken it in that he's about to walk onto an open manhole.

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Busybeesbutt · 15/01/2018 13:22

It's like she thinks were lying about being married Hmm

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Shineystrawberrylover · 15/01/2018 13:27

Maybe she thinks marriage is a bit of a sham. Not that yours is. But generally marriage is one of those constructs that's silly that people make out is important?
You say she's bad at social stuff is that anxiety, a depreszing upbringing? Did she struggle as a young person or has she changed?

mimibunz · 15/01/2018 13:34

I know you wrote that she’s been this way for years but it sounds exactly like my Mil with early dementia.

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Busybeesbutt · 15/01/2018 14:04

She was raised with very fixed ideas ie women get married and have kids and she hasn't done that so maybe she's bitter that hasn't happened?

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