I know I probably am BU but I just want a day together..

[PurplePenguins]

I have 4 DSs by 2 different fathers. DS1, DS2 and DS3 go to see their father on a Saturday and DS4 goes on a Sunday. I have tried to organise it so all four DSs go on the same day but DF1 says Sunday is a day of rest and will not have the boys on Sundays even tho he doesn't work and he. DF2 works 1 out of 6 Saturdays so won't have DS4 on a Saturday uunless he has him for the whole weekend (once a month). We never have a whole day together as a family to do anything. Short of saying you either switch your day or you don't see your child(ren), I dont know how to get a whole day with all 4 boys .

So could ds4 not go to his dad for the whole weekend once a month. Then u would have the other three

Allthewaves. He does and the other 3 go to their dad's on the Saturday. I get a whole day to myself which I love, but we never have a whole day together, me and all 4 boys so I do things with the older 3 and things with the youngest but never all 4 together

Pengwyyn. A day of rest like Monday to Friday aren't days of rest for him!!!!

Sorry OP. I can see how it would be nice to have a day together once in a while.

If he can't have children on a Sunday as it is a day of rest, what does he think other parents do with their children on a Sunday? Do they all magically disappear?

Could you get Df2 to agree to let Ds4 stay with you for the odd Sunday either the weekend before or after he has him the whole weekend.
Alternatively would DF1 let you have them for an occasional Saturday.

Not sure of their ages. Do they all have the same inset days, and would you be able to have it off work?

Both dads are unreasonable.
Not sure how to change things.

Day of rest!? How come he’s entitled to Sunday as a day of rest and you’re not? I think you need to start thinking about what works best for you and not fitting around other people, especially if you’re the primary caregiver.

DS1 is 23. Sees his DF as and when he's not working. If he's off on a Saturday then he takes DS2 (16) and DS3 (15) to DF's otherwise DF has to pick up and drop off. This is the same DF that left when DS3 was 2. Didn't see them for a year, took me to court and got access, saw them for a year, threw a hissy fit because his DF refused to collect him when he collected the boys and didn't see them for nearly 10 years. He has fed all 3 lies about how I stopped him seeing them and DS2 doesn't totally disbelieve him like DS1 and 3 do. Has caused friction. He isn't what I call a dad. DF2 is just plain unreasonable. He will not change his day come he'll or high water. Which is r

only recently. November was chocka block for DS4 with beaver activities etc and he had one whole weekend free which DF "couldn't do" (a party) . He wanted a lot of flexibility which DS4 couldn't cope with so I told him that he could stay over for the whole weekend on a set weekend. Now he's being totally rigid 😡

Penggwyn. Day of teat. Love it