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Sons 1st birthday

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namechangedforthewin · 14/01/2018 20:06

So it's a birthday one!!! Ex and Some of his family were due to come round for DS's first birthday. We arranged it between ourselves and I agreed that any plans I made would be later to accommodate ex and his family visiting. No problems.

Only when it comes to it, ex is only one to show up claiming the rest of his family are ill, all with the same thing so decided not to come. It's hard to get across on here that my ex is a pathological liar, would lie about his own name if he could etc.

I understand people get ill, you can't choose when etc but apparently his mum, her partner, his Nan and granddad all were ill with the same thing at the same time. To not drip feed, I will just add in that I recently had texts from his mum asking if she could take DS somewhere for almost a whole Saturday when ex was supposed to have DS ex was not mentioned. I said no. She was also on and I about how important my DS is to her. Even tho she didn't turn up for his 1st birthday I feel like this may have contributed to the no show.

I extremely doubt it is true at all that they were ALL ill at the same time, with the same illness but miraculously if it is, AIBU to think that they should've at least let me know, and asked to arrange another visit instead?

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Emilybrontescorsett · 14/01/2018 20:08

Did they definitely know about the event?
Or did your ex relay the message?
Did he even tell them?

Nicknacky · 14/01/2018 20:09

Very possible they are all ill. Me, my dad, my h, my youngest have all been ill recently at the same time.

Hassled · 14/01/2018 20:10

I can understand why you're cross, but it doesn't really matter in the long run - at least your Ex is involved in his son's life. That's the bit to focus on. If your DS's grandparents etc dip in and out of his life, and it sounds like they will, that will be far less important to him as he grows up if he has parents who can co-parent well.

namechangedforthewin · 14/01/2018 20:12

We discussed it at last weeks handover. His mum was present. Wasn't an event so much as they were going to come and visit.

If I'm totally honest, I believe his grandparents are ill as they often catch things regularly due to other illnesses. But my honest opinion is that ex's grandparents are ill, his mum was pissed off about being told no so jumped on the bandwagon as a protest. The even she wanted to take DS to was a family party where she would be the only person DS has met in his life

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