To expect dh to help with the 'LITTLE' things?

[Radley]

By the little things, I mean

Making sure they clean their teeth (he puts them to bed majority of the time)

Being able to get them dressed in a morning without my help, ie, school uniform (when it's all laid out) or, being able to get an outfit out of their wardrobes etc. Every morning, I have to get the kids ready and once they are ready I have 10 minutes to get myself ready, washed etc and out of the house.

De-nitting them every so often, we can't seem to get rid of these at the min and he is constantly saying 'Radley, the kids are scratching', or 'Radley will you see if the kids need doing'. He has NEVER de-nitted and when i ask why, i get 'But Radley, I don't know how to do it'

He can be quite hands on, he took them bowling this morning whilst I was at work, but, only because his sister took them in the car.

Bathing them every so often?

Bathing imo should be taken in turns or done by dads.

As for the nit thing - pathetic!!!!!! absolutly pathetic. I don't know how you look on the packet and read instructions, how thick is he?

Sorry but he would irritate me with those seriously pathetic excuses! on your behalf!

(how many times can i use pathetic in one post)

Well given the option of de-nitting or bowling i know what i waould choose.

Given the option of bathing, washing, brishng teeth, dressing or saying "radley can you..." or moaning, or sighing or being too busy...i know what i would choose.

You need a sit down conversation. with a "look this is what you should do. Children didn't come with a handbook. I wan not born with special knowledge and i know you arn't stupid. So cut the shit dear, and pull you effin finger out" then

Theres a bloke 2 doors down from me whose wife left him with 4 kids - one of which is severly disabled. Tell you dh if he can do it then so can he

Other little things that I have discovered are not a dad's area of expertise are:-

Finger/toe nail cutting and
knowing what items to put in a change bag fgs!

I am sure it is total laziness, so no you are not being unreasonable!

I'd like to add a few 'little' things - being able to look after children for 1 hour, without making the whole house a bomb site, knowing where the children keep their shoes, brushing the children's hair if he has to get them ready for school - I could go on, but I'm starting to get a bit worked up. My DH has 1 job in the house - to put the recycling out once a fortnight. How many times has he managed it this year - 3!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have never cut my DDs' finger/toenails. DH always does it. He has never denitted. There are three of them, all with bum-length hair. They would run a mile if he came near them with a comb. He COULD learn how to comb their hair without scalping them - but frankly why should I put them through it? They scream enough when I nitcomb them.
I personally don't think both parents shouuld have to do everything, division of labour works fine. It is when the division itself is unequal that you are in trouble. SO no, you are not necessarily being unreasonable, it depends what else he does.

[walks off]