Help me with a response to this arsehole

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A gem from tinder.

It's generally when a couple in a relationship invites another man in to have sex with the woman. The first man generally watches. Sometimes there's humiliation (of the first man) involved.

Best not to respond at ALL. Any response whatsoever, even really negative will give him wankfodder. @Snotgobbler99 - he would probably like being anally invaded by one of those too. They generally like things the more humiliating the better.

I don't see what he's done wrong. He's asked if OP would consider doing a thing he likes - and asked politely. OP can just say, no thanks and move on. It's no different from 'Are you into salsa dancing?' really in terms of finding out whether your interests are compatible.

Reanimated - consider doing a thing he likes? Cuckolding someone? Unless its meaning has changed recently, that's in no way comparable to salsa dancing.

Just ignore him, why do you need to reply? Just because he has different taste to you doesn't make him an arsehole btw

Block him and move on...

I'm with the others on this one. Its just a fetish and not like he was being perverse about it, was just a simple question.

Relax a bit why don't you, if you had of said something mean to the "asshole" then that would have made you the judgemental asshole but good for him.. at least he doesn't have to put up with that shit.

A friend of mine arranged a date with a seemingly normal bloke from tinder, then just before the date he asked if he could take her worn pants home with him afterwards.

What is a cuckold?

Respoonse is

OMG yes yes yes... Give it too me now..
I LOVE BIRDS.
I want my own Cuckco so much...
Oh thank you so much...

If your not into it either ignore or reply No....... Try not to behave like a child and respond with an obsenity as some have suggested.

I think he wants you to cheat on him, he would enjoy the humiliation? Surely he’s be better off using a specialist/niche website for this, as I’m sure most people wouldn’t be up for it!

I wouldn’t respond though

If your not into it either ignore or say no. Do not behave like a child and respond with an obsenity just because his tastes may differ from your own. Why does this make him an arse?

As for what the word cuckold means?

Traditionally it refers to a man who has a wife that has cheated on him.

Now it usually refers to a man who is in a relationship with a woman who is free to have sex with another man, while he stays faithful. The cuckold is o.k with this....

My DH is a cuckold, and it works very well for us.

What I would say though is that cuckold type relationships only tend to work when they are initiated by the woman, not the man.......

If your not into it either ignore or say no. Do not behave like a child and respond with an obsenity just because his tastes may differ from your own. Why does this make him an arse?

This.

It’s absolutely not my thing either but that’s all you need to say: it’s to my thing.

Tinder is predominantly for people looking for sex or casual relationships, so of course he should be up-front about any kinks. Better to be honest than him dating you, sleeping with you for a few weeks then suddenly doing a big reveal as to what he wants from the relationship.

OP, perhaps Tinder is not the dating site for you!

He’s been honest. When I was dating online (pre Tinder etc) I was always completely fine if someone said something was their taste or not. I’m not slim for example. When some men said they like someone of a slim build or certain dress size, some of my friends would say they were shallow. I didn’t agree, when you aren’t seeing someone’s personality, you go by what physically pleases you, better to know straight away if you aren’t suited.
He has been polite, straightforward and hasn’t sent you a dick pic so just reply and say not for you or delete. No need for a rude or aggressive reply.

Exactly what @vwlphb said. He was upfront about his niche 'interest'. Not sure why we need to come up with insults or why he's an arsehole.