Who is sick of Facebook

[MissSpock]

and why?

Now re: your experience, no idea why FB is connecting you with those people.

Today I was prompted to connect with over 20 profiles who promoted the game Slotomania, their profiles clearly professional profiles just showing ads to play on (in?) Slotomania, whatever that is. I Googled it and it is obviously some Facebook game where you pay money to play on virtual slot machines.

It's weird that Facebook doesn't prompt me to connect to people who are members of the same local groups as I am. It's more likely. The likelihood of me connecting with an unknown man in their thirties with a profile in say Tamil, posting political messages, is around nil, I'd say.

Isn’t saying you’re sick of Facebook really just saying you’re sick of your friends and family?

Actually, quite the opposite.

I got rid of FB over a year ago, because it was making me dislike people. Friends and family who are perfectly nice in real life, but turn into show-offs/attention-seekers online.

And no, you can’t just hide them from you feed. Because I tried that, then I’d see them IRL and they’d be surprised I didn’t know any of their news, as they’d put it all on FB. What can you say to that: ‘I unfollowed you because you’re tedious’??

"What can you say to that: ‘I unfollowed you because you’re tedious’??*

No just blame the algorithms

I got rid of the account now, on 14 January, a few seconds ago. Nobody will miss me.

I noticed it was a little bit tricky finding information about how to delete the account, and that they don't want to delete it until after you're dead, but there was a function still so I hurried up and ordered it before the functionality to permanently remove and jam the account is in itself permanently removed.

but there was a function still so I hurried up and ordered it before the functionality to permanently remove and jam the account is in itself permanently removed.

How did you do it?

No just blame the algorithms

I don’t think anyone would believe that.

Even if they did, I got sick of hiding/unfollowing people and then trying to remember who I could or couldn’t ‘see’. It all became so pointless that I quit FB altogether.

If I want to know what’s going on in people’s lives now, I call, email or text them. Or meet up, if they’re local.

I found that fb promoted a false sense of connection; this subconscious belief that because you know all about where someone went on holiday and what award their kid won at school, you’re up to date with them, and don’t need to make a reL-life effort.

Nobody wanted to be my friend. It was early days. I dropped my account many years ago. Instagram is my only social media.

I never understand people complaining about the content on Facebook. These people are presumably your friends and family. If they are posting shit just block them! You are in control of what you are reading. I find Facebook invaluable for staying in touch with friends and family all over the world, but if someone is boring or an arsehole I block them. Hence my feed is full of interesting stuff. And cat videos obviously.

Insta is my only social media too. I like looking at pictures but not conversing. I closed my FB years ago for all the reasons listed above. Racist, sexist rubbish, boasting about pretend wonderful lives, those god awful vomit inducing poems you are meant to share and like. Awful.

I love being anonymous in Google.

@MissSpock: "How did you do it?"

There's a help section under the question mark in the menu. I searched for "delete" or if it was "erase" more likely, there's a question which has a very long answer. Toward the end of the lengthy text there is a sentence printed as a small blue hyperlink, with a text long the lines of "if you still want to delete your account, contact us". I clicked the link and was prompted for my password to queue my account up for deletion. It takes 14 days and one must not log on to the account during that period, that cancels the deletion process. I've done this on my previous Facebook account too, last spring, it was under another email, and it seems to work. Still.

@Abbylee

Nobody wanted to be my friend either. But it was late days. Nobody is interested in looking for new connections anymore, people already have plenty of contacts (aka "friends"). I dropped my account this morning. Twitter and Mumsnet are my only social media.

I've binned Facebook for this month, this year it's all about me! Sadly I got caught up in the fakery and it made me so down, then I got into a cycle of feeling crap about myself because I cared about it so much iyswim. Pathetic, childish and stupid, anyhow as I said this years it's about me and I feel so much better.

I haven't deactivated just not logged in, not missed it one jot. However, this is due to a handful of 'friends' who if I do go back on will be defriended or unfollowed. DH has kept me informed of any juicy gossip

I hate it for the endless drivel of certain people. But I am a teacher and it has great subject and board specific groups for my subject so for this it's great and the only reason I keep it.

I hate it. I'm on there under extreme duress. Apparently my friends have suddenly forgotten how to communicate with me and other folks via other perfectly reasonable means. 🙄

I don't care about the million selfies. I also don't care about the photos of their food, and the endless veganuary clean eating bollocks. I'm really not interested in the bowel movements of any new babies, or the endless photos of them that look exactly the same as the others. I don't care what they're watching or whatever bullshit drama is flying about, it drives me nuts.

I deactivated over Christmas for the full month of December. You'd have thought I had just hacked someone's arm off. Oh but i can't tag you now! :( or but I want you to see this!

No. No, no, no, no, NO.

I said specifically not to show me Facebook links - did anyone listen? Did they fuck. Don't get me wrong, i love my mates, but for fuck's sake, Facebook is not the be all and end all of the fucking universe.

I also wish folks would STOP POSTING THEIR KIDS PHOTOS PUBLICLY. Jesus. With the sheer amount of predatory paedos using social media as their method of hunting, it terrifies me that folks are being so bloody lax with the privacy and safety of their kids. Post photos but bloody hell, keep it to friends only. Some of the kids videos you see about can be really humiliating for kids too, but no, as long as it gets clicks it's okay right?

Christ. I've started ranting and I'm having trouble stopping.

I'm surprised that many have their friends lists on public display. That way, someone might easily set up a duplicate profile of some friend, and "befriend" the owner of the friends list once again, who probably not would check for duplicate profiles if the reason given is good enough. Soon thereafter there is always the possibility that the said friend suddenly is on vacation and has lost their phone and money and - could you please wire me some money it's an emergency...

Can someone explain why people still have their friends lists on public display, what good could possibly come out of it?

I’ve just unfriended someone because all she ever does is post selfies so that people will line up to tell her she looks fantastic. She looks pretty average in fact. Facebook is dull.

Just deactivated it this week. It's no longer about connecting with friends, it's all about memes and adverts. My news feed is literally flooded with businesses. I cba to go through and unlike everything. I realised my friends never post anything meaningful, it's all direct sharing from other pages.

@hevonbu RE the friends list thing - i have always kept mine visible only to me because I want to respect their privacy as much as my own. All those nasty little apps and stuff spider through those lists and start mithering with god only knows what.

@fastfrank I have an addon installed called Facebook Purity which lets you control what you see on the desktop version at least. I'd go completely barmy if I didn't use that.

I don't care about the million selfies. I also don't care about the photos of their food, and the endless veganuary clean eating bollocks. I'm really not interested in the bowel movements of any new babies, or the endless photos of them that look exactly the same as the others. I don't care what they're watching or whatever bullshit drama is flying about, it drives me nuts.

I think I am just nosey as I do care about this. I love people’s holiday snaps. The babies and kids stuff I am not bothered about but I like to know what people are having for tea. I am always told I am nosey though.

I hate all of the ads and the millions of memes. I hardly see any true written post now. It’s all tags in videos.

Yep, me too.
Can't be bothered with the constant fake life's for likes.
I deleted the app from my phone on 1st January and haven't been on. It feels great not to have the minute details of friends and randoms life's in my head space.
I sometimes see email notifications of things that have been posted and honestly just find it all a bit dull.

@BattleCuntGalactica that's a great idea, I'll install it should I decide to reactivate (which I probably will )

Folks wipe their arse and post about it on there these days. I know this because the sheer amount of people who answer comments when they're on the loo and ADMIT THAT, is monumental. 🙄

Evidence that emotions can be transmitted through Facebook:

www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2014/06/everything-we-know-about-facebooks-secret-mood-manipulation-experiment/373648/