Woman on stag do

[timshortfforthalia]

Dh has a female colleague who I really dislike. Really stalky about dh, will ring him multiple times from pub if he doesn't go out, has strops if he doesn't text her. List is endless, it's been going on eight years. I really can't stand this woman, she is freaking mental. Dh limits almost all interactions

Had to be in centre of everything, massive FOMO, really controlling of group of male mates at work. Will drop all her female friends at work to make sure she is still at centre of what she considers to be the alpha male group. I live at dhs work, she doesn't. She has let herself in our house, and called round to collect him when he hasn't joined in end of term drinks ( cause he looking after our kids while I at work)

List is genuinely endless. It's so weird. She has really big strops and rows when doesn't get her way. She is like this with everyone in her life, but more so this group of guys at work, and especially dh.

One of dhs male colleagues is getting married. She is going to stag do. I just expressed surprise to dh and his mate and they told me it wouldn't be worth the hassle not to invite her (invited by groom BTW)

Aibu to be seething and irrationally annoyed? I mean yes, obvs I am

[Mxyzptlk]

over xmas, as every holiday, she sends series of texts. Maybe six, ending with 'you're so mean for not replying!

That's not behaviour of an alpha person. That sounds would-be flirty and pathetic.

Yanbu to object to any way this woman affects your life, eg letting herself into your house.

DH's relationship with her at work, tho, is nothing to do with you. If he moans to you about her, tell him to sort it himself.

[Skarossinkplunger]

I’ve been on more stags than hens.

[HermionesRightHook]

She sounds like a women-hater, not you. One of those women that always has to be the exceptional woman that gets on only with the men "because I'm just not like other women!".

[timshortfforthalia]

Thanks all for replying.

I started the thread after a couple too many drinks last night and now wish I hadn't. Nothing good ever comes of starting an AIBU

While everything I write about this person is true, I have painted a really one-sided picture of her.

She is not really a big part of my life anymore but I know she would be the first to admit that her need to be included and at heart of everything is way off the scale. Whilst my instinctive reaction to the way she behaves is irritation, at a rational level I know I just need to be a bit kinder about her.

Can you tell I have post drinking guilts and anxiety?? I am hoping this thread dies now (despite me posting on it!)