Have name changed and changed a few minor details so as not to be identifying.
DSis lives abroad. I use the 'D' loosely. We don't really get on. History of her bullying me and being jealous of the attention I get for reasons I cannot explain without being majorly identifying but nothing I could ever do anything about.
She's lived abroad for 10 years, has a foreign husband, 2 kids. I could probably count on one hand the amount of phone calls/texts/emails I have had from her in this time. She communicates with our parents, not with me or DH (who also does not like her). Her complete lack of acknowledgement of me and my family has not gone un noticed by family and friends. She is on my facebook and I comment on her posts with no acknowledgement. She never comments on mine but she does like and comment pictures of my DD that my mother posts.
She did block me from FB for a whole year because I challenged her racist views. It caused my parents a lot of grief. They feel they need to watch what they say or do around her so they can still see her and her kids. She has a lot to say about what I do wrong in her eyes too.
Last time she visited, she did not see any family members besides me, DH, DD and parents. Upset a lot of people, and was not very nice to DD.
There's more but I don't want to make this too long.
DMum has told DD that she can go with them on their next visit to see DSis. DD all excited. DMum says she discussed it with DH and he agreed. He denies this. DH says he said 'we'd think about it' but DMum has been happily chatting about it with DD.
I told DMum no way was DD going, she's too young and it's a 10 hour flight, 3 planes, stuck in a house with DSis who is a self centred nasty b*tch, no chance of escape and no parents to help her if DSis is mean.
DMum says she will keep an eye on DD, and if she can be trusted to do childcare around school hours why can't she be trusted to take DD abroad for 2-3 weeks?
DD is now v upset, DMum is very upset because her DDs don't get along.
DD is at school and has been taken out of school a few times for holidays. I don't want her missing any more school now. She also has two holidays already booked with us.
AIBU? or is DMum?