How to approach Tinder dating?

[WellAlwaysHaveParis]

How should I approach Tinder dating? (Or any kind of dating, really).

Was talking to a relative, and they think that I should be seeing several people at once in order to increase my chances of finding someone I really click with and really want to be with. I much prefer the idea of seeing people individually though. The relative met their DH on Tinder, and was only seeing their DH individually, but has a lot more experience of relationships than me (is a few years older).

I met my husband OLD. I have plenty of friends who are in LTR or married to people they met online / on Tinder so you absolutely can make it work.
My advice is don't waste too much time talking online - maximum 2 weeks (if chatting every / most days). Then meet up as chemistry can be very different in person!
I spoke to 2 men online. Met one on a Friday for a drink - no spark, really awkward. Never saw him again. Met the second on the Sunday and we are now married. I wouldn't talk to more than 2 though as it may get confusing!

I met my fiancé on tinder. Speak to people and try to become friends on fb or something like that as it's more difficult to lie about who they are if you have access to their social media

Do you really really like him and do you want to see how it goes?

100% this trojan :) What's holding me back is just that I'm a scaredy-cat and I'm worried about committing to anyone too soon in case it all goes wrong (although it could of course still go wrong at any stage of a relationship, to be honest).

Keep doing what you are doing OP. I wouldn't like to multidate either. Dont let others get overinvolved in your relationships and you do what feels best and most true to you. Good luck on date 3!

Sounds like you have it sussed then

It should be really simple.
When I met my boyfriend it was just so so so easy, we both just really liked each other and only wanted to date each other and that was it and then we dated. And we saw each other regularly because we just made time even though work was crazy busy for us both.

Go on two or three more dates and if he isn’t feeling you out on exclusivity I would broach the subject and see what he says. As I said anything other than a big fat “yes I want to date you and only you!” Should give you pause for serious thought as that’s the point where feelings can get very hurt!

Good luck and Definitely update!!!

Thanks so much Betty! :)

As I've never been in a relationship before, I've never been in the position of telling people I'm seeing someone and everyone wanting to offer advice and ask how it's going.

I've got a close relative who is the opposite of me in that sense, as they tell everyone they know everything when they start seeing someone. That's fine, but I'm just not like that. And I hate it when people pressurise me to talk about personal or private stuff. Even though they mean well.

This is all obviously absolutely fine, and i do appreciate it, but what I'm not such a fan of is people basically telling me how to date i.e. because I've never dated/had a relationship before, some people I know (including the relative) act as if I can't trust my own judgement because I can't possibly know what I want or what I'm talking about.

I may not have had any dating experience, but all the same, I like to think I've got some life experience and can hold my own. It's just weird how some people I know (close family, I mean) make it into a big thing about me never having been in a relationship.

Thanks trojan :)

Thanks again everyone for all of your help :)

My advice is not to take advice on Tinder from people who have never used it.

My top piece of advice is to remember that you are not just trying to make the other person like you. You are also trying to figure out if YOU like THEM.

match.com was horrendous! Full of weirdos!