Facebook friend request aargh fuck

[WellAlwaysHaveParis]

Accidentally sent someone a Facebook friend request but cancelled it immediately. Will the person still be able to see that I sent the request???!! Fuck's sake.

Urgent answers needed please!!!

Someone I vaguely know sent me a friend request. I just ignored it and it was sitting there for about 6 months. This week, I somehow accidentally accepted the request. After a couple of days of loads of shite posts from her, I decided to bite the bullet and unfriended her. But I accidentally pressed the button a second time so sent her a friend request that I then promptly cancelled.

So basically, you're nowhere near as bad as me!

They might have a “dump” email address they use for FB.

Thanks everyone!! God I'm such an idiot fuck's sake. I thought I was being so careful and then... suddenly... 'friend request sent' 😱 I blame my bloody fat fingers...!

Yes but it comes up not as bright.
I had this from a senior manager who hated me, a bloody friend request.

Yes but it comes up not as bright.

What do you mean @Rudgie47?

Can I ask....why would it be so terrible to friend someone you've "been seeing from Tinder"?

You've been seeing him...why can't you friend him?

I live in feast of this happening with people I’m stalking!

Fear obviously..not feast

Can I ask....why would it be so terrible to friend someone you've "been seeing from Tinder"?

@CheapSausagesAndSpam it's so random, but when we saw each other yesterday, he showed me an ID card he had when we were chatting. Obviously it had his surname on, so I could Facebook-stalk him pretty easily today. He still doesn't know my surname though it just feels really unequal. I'm going to look crazy and way too forward

Why would you meet up with someone with a view to intamacy if you didn't even know their surname??

Well, he probably knows your surname now OP

Sorry. Seriously, it's no big deal, if he thinks it is he has no sense of humour and you don't want that!

Why would you meet up with someone with a view to intamacy if you didn't even know their surname??

We met on Tinder, and people's surnames never come up on Tinder @CheapSausagesAndSpam.

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Well I think it's a bad idea. I don't think it's wise or kind to yourself to just meet men in that way. It's dangerous.

How do you suggest "meeting men" then Cheap? Safer to pick up a random stranger in a bar / club? Or are you going to trot out the old "try going to a nightclass" advice?

what? meeting people on the internet is being unkind to oneself!?

what planet

Chariz I maintain that it's better to meet men in real life situations.

Work, volunteering, clubs....through friends.

Then you know SOMETHING about them...you have a tiny bit of background knowledge and can see them interacting in their usual, natural way.

Setting up meetings with strangers where giving your surname is seen as a taboo is just stupid.

Faking , I did similar...facebook stalking a newish member of my choir who was rather dishy but a total dick. I posted his name in my status and didn't notice until someone (from same choir) commented on it! Totally obvious stalking fail!

CheapSausagesAndSpam I've met and dated equal numbers of men in real life (through work/clubs/parties) as online, and encountered similar proportions of lying bastards and nice guys through both methods. The worst offender was someone a friend set me up with, who charmed the socks off me, persued me with romantic gestures for months, led me to believe he was smitten (by which point I was)...only for our mutual friend to then point out that this guy had just come out of a 13 year relationship and was still in love with, and also trying to get back with, his ex whilst "having a bit of fun" with me. Confronted guy..who confirmed yes, true. Haven't experienced that level of shit from anyone I met online...though did meet some bloody weirdos.

Cheap To be fair, it seems like you can get a pretty good idea of who a person is from their online persona these days. For example: if I met a guy in a club he'd get my first name, the type of drink I like, the vague area I'm from, etc. But if they friended me on Facebook and I accepted they'd get better (though not entirely comprehensive - I'm careful with what I put on social media) idea of what sort of person I am. Which is why I'm all for people 'facebook stalking' potential partners when they're just getting to know them. A pretty out-there example, but just imagine: you've been chatting to a guy and you're making plans to meet up. You have a peak at his FB profile and see that he shares a tonne of mysoginist memes. You've now got the info you need to nip things in the bud there and then before you even have to be in the same building with him. Obviously that's a bit of an extreme example, but there are plenty of other 'red flags' that social media throws up that help people weed out those that might sound good on paper, but are probably not the sort of person they'd like to associate with in real life.

OP: I've done the same thing as you in the past. You pretty much have two options:

1. Cut contact with the guy and forget it ever happened if you weren't that keen on him to begin with.
2. Continue talking to him, and if he brings it up shrug it off with something funny. If he's worth his salt he'll understand and laugh along with you.

I had someone weird show up on my FB a few years ago. It was a request to be on FB messenger (I never knew you could do that without being FB friends) from this woman who I know does not like me and we are certainly not FB friends. I clicked accept or whatever it was and never heard anything else from her. I suppose she was having a snoop and clicked on the wrong thing.

You're all probably correct. I'm just old.

Seriously, pretty much the reason Facebook exists is to stalk people. It's a perfectly normal thing to do, to have a quick look at someone's profile. Don't even worry about it. If he mentions it just laugh it off.

Im old too cheap and i would like to meet somebody at work or at book club or at gym or wherever but not only is the ratio of women to men always very high no matter where i go but the other women are always younger. Im benignly ignored at work. I join things but my time is valuable so i dont join things im not interested in just to meet men. I did a dress design course not a man on it but i loved it.

I honestly take off my hat to somebody who can meet somebody in real life.

Like pps ive done a bit of resesrch on fb too! Sometimes you see something that is a disappointment but you're so glad you know. Saves months of your life.

Facebook need a new feature that if you accidently press 'add friend', it asks you if you really wanted to do that!