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AIBU?

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To ask childminder not to take DS to toddler group during flu season?

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32notout · 12/01/2018 20:03

My DS is 16 months old and was born with a heart condition. He is doing really well but seems to suffer badly with viruses and is regularly unwell.

He goes to a lovely childminder three days a week. On one of those days he is the only mindee and on that day she takes him to a toddler group.

Unfortunately every time he goes to this group he catches an illness, we have had vomiting, high temperatures and this week he is starting with croup (I know you can’t be sure where these things are coming from but the timings always match up)

So my question is this: WIBU to ask her not to take him to the group again till March/April time when this horrible flu bug is over with? I am petrified he will catch the flu and be hospitalised or worse because of his heart condition but not sure if I am overreacting?

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kaytee87 · 12/01/2018 20:05

If he is the only mindee that day then I don't see a problem. Maybe tell her you don't mind him watching some cartoons for a while during the day though? As you will know it can be hard entertaining a toddler at home all day.
You could always say your doctor has advised to avoid them just now

retainertrainer · 12/01/2018 20:07

I think that’s perfectly reasonable and actually quite sensible given the circumstances.

bridgetreilly · 12/01/2018 20:09

YANBU, especially given his medical conditions.

museumum · 12/01/2018 20:10

Get him to the gp for flu immunisation! It’s a nasal spray at his age.

AntiHop · 12/01/2018 20:11

Under your circumstances, yanbu.

olympicsrock · 12/01/2018 20:11

In these circumstances YANBU

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32notout · 12/01/2018 20:11

Oh wow, ok, thought she might think I was overly paranoid but maybe not. Will definitely mention it then. Thank you all

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32notout · 12/01/2018 20:12

Museumum he cannot have the nasal spray as it’s not licensed in under 2s unfortunately

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FurryGiraffe · 12/01/2018 20:14

Under 2s can have the injected vaccine. My DS2 had it because he has asthma. He was 17 months at the time.

Itchytights · 12/01/2018 20:14

Very sensible thing to do here op.

I wouldn’t hesitate to do this.

I would also reiterate importance of handwashing too ( which probably may sound patronising but I’m fastidious with my children washing their hands).

stickytoffeevodka · 12/01/2018 20:15

YANBU at all under the circumstances!

blue2014 · 12/01/2018 20:18

Was all prepared to say no at first but yes- of course that's fine

TheHungryDonkey · 12/01/2018 20:21

The only thing is she might acquire more mindees during that time frame. March to April is quite a long way off and children can come and go.

kaytee87 · 12/01/2018 20:27

My 17mo had the flu last month, he has no underlying health concerns and he was so poorly it was scary :(

Look into the vaccination a bit more op

ffauxlivia · 12/01/2018 20:30

Yes he should be able to get the injected vaccine - ask the GP about it. My DD had it and is under 2

ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay · 12/01/2018 20:36

Under 2s can have it if they have a medical condition. Why haven’t you had it done?!

Cindie943811A · 12/01/2018 20:40

The infant vaccine is apparently more successful than the adult version — there was a discussion about it on BBC Radio 4 this week.

TheFirstMrsDV · 12/01/2018 20:40

YANBU.
I work with vulnerable children.
Their parents are routinely advised to keep them away from play groups.
Some of our children are taken out of school during flu season.

Talk to your DS's paediatrician at his next review.

BoomBoomsCousin · 12/01/2018 20:42

Whether you get the flu vaccine or not is something to discuss with your GP or the consultant your DS is under. Even if you get it, not going to toddler group may be wise. The vaccine this year has not been very effective in the countries that have already used it (like Australia), while things may be different in Europe for various reasons, even on a good year it's only about 60% effective. So avoiding sites where picking it up is likely can still be wise. I would talk to the doctor about all of it.

Inebriatededna · 12/01/2018 20:46

As a childminder I would imagine she’s taking your son to toddler groups as she thinks you would prefer him to be with other children so I’m sure if you explain your thoughts she will be happy to agree to give the group a miss for a while .

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32notout · 12/01/2018 20:51

Cardiologist didn’t mention that he could have injectable vaccine - although his last appointment was before the flu panic started. Will look into it ASAP. I had my own vaccine done and am breastfeeding still so hopefully that’s better than nothing in the meantime

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FlakeBook · 12/01/2018 21:03

I think YABU unfortunately unless your Cardiologist has advised you to keep away from big groups.

It's hard to say without knowing what his heart condition is - obviously that could be life limiting, have no effect on him, or anything in between.

My dd has asd. She's had the injected vaccine ever since she was a baby. Some children with heart defects can't have the nasal spray even after the age of 2 so check that with your cardiologist too.

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