To not trust men with "male contraceptive pill"

[PennyBBT]

I was reading some articles about the research into a male contraceptive pill. And I thought, that if it were to be released and i was single... I honestly wouldn't trust a guy to take it (even if he said he had) having sex . I mean obvious there's more to protect against than just pregnancy but AIBU having this opinion xx

"I for example have had horrendous side effects ftom the pill and know many others who have too, seems a little harsh to ethically let women keep taking it and not men etc. X"

If you don't want to take it, then don't.

But the severe side effects (risk of death by all causes, includung suicide) are not as frequent/extensive for female hormonal contraception (which are lower than the risks inherent in pregnancy).

The focus should be on finding better means of contraception. Not for decrying attempts for failing, and saying that because a different option isn't perfect, a new and more risky one should be rolled out for others.

Male Contraceptive Pill doesn't appear to negate any STDs. Dunno why any woman would trust a man to be on it.

wake
What a peculiar post.

I would trust dh to take a pill but if it was a new relationship I would want to control my own fertility.

I agree with sacevola the most promising seems to be the reversible vasectomy.

I can imagine in ten years time each partner will take responsibility for their own fertility - I also expect that will mean a pretty significant drop in the birth rate.

No way would I trust someone else with this most fucking important thing in the world that would change my life forever, and men should not be trusting women either.

YABU

Either you are having sex with a man you know well enough to trust, or you should be using condoms IMO.

Yanbu
Seeing as women can’t be trusted to do so and they actually have to go through pregnancy then I’d imagine you’d have a similar situation where men would lie about it.

Misswilmotts, it's not just about trust (though I think many women think they trust a man till it's too late and the consequences here of that are bloody massive). Maybe your trustworthy man will genuinely forget a pill.

When it comes to having kids, making a mistake is too big for me to put in the hands of anyone else, no matter how much I love and trust them. If I was fine with an accident that would be different of course.

I would love this to be availble. Sick of pumping my body with crappy hormones. It is so his turn!

Maybe your trustworthy man will genuinely forget a pill

Another reason the reversible vasectomy might be a better option. He can’t forget so it’s likely have a far far lower failure rate.

YANBU but if male I'd not trust a women on the contraceptive pill either. Far better to teach responsibility for your own fertility than rely on others. Far too many "unplanned" pregnancies where the other party didn't follow the instructions or decided alone they wanted a child so took matters into their own hands.

I don't even trust my self with the female pill. That's why my son is 15! only joking.

but seriously I'm way too much of a control freak to leave this up to anyone else.