To ask you if you've ever experienced love not being enough?

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I was talking to my friend about how I'm feeling unsettled in my relationship, not because of who he is, but because of his life vision, his lifestyle, what nakes him happy - and how its possible that we're just too different on our expectations of l8fe and what makes us tick for it to work, even though we connect well if you see what mean.

My friend said "sometimes love just isnt enough".

Have you ever been in this position or felt it with your partner?

Yes.

I left the love of my life.

We loved each other but it wasn't enough

Yes - a long time ago now.
Very difficult decision to leave.
Still think about it sometimes to this day although I love my DH and cannot imagine life without him.

True love is always enough. Frankly not many experience actually fall in proper love. Most settle for the easiest option and therein lies the problem.

Yes - I loved him. But his family didn't approve and he didn't want to fight for me. So I left him. It was hard, but in the long-run better for us both...

Friedgreen I disagree.

Sometimes love is not enough.

Yes. He was the love of my life, but we would have torn each other apart.
DH is the love for my life

True love is always enough

I think you are not allowing for a wider range of circumstances than you perhaps have experienced yourself Friedgreen

Yes. I was madly in love, but I want children and he was already done with that part of his life.
4 years on, I still love him. But it was also still the right decision.

Yes. If you love someone but you have very different ideas about the life you want to lead, then it's not enough.

For example i wouldn't move to live in a hut up a mountain in the middle of nowhere, living off the land for anyone. I would be miserable. That's not the life I want to live.

Similarly you could have someone who desperately wants to live in one country while their partner feels at home in another. I knew a couple like this. It split them up.

Yes. Lovely man, very happy relationship but very different life goals. We would have made each other miserable in the end.

Yes - perfect on paper, we were absolutely best friends, but we had totally different goals in life and for either of us to compromise would have meant misery for the both of us.

So we let each other go - 14 years on we're both happily married with 2 boys apiece. I think of him like a brother and I'm very pleased that he's happy.

Sometimes love is not enough.

And it sucks.

I left a man I adored and although I love my DP I still think of this man often. But I wanted more kids and a family. He was happy to remain childless.