I live at home (for now) with my mother and brother. I'm in my 30s and my brother is 26.
For the past year, he became increasingly rude and completely obnoxious within the family home. He hardly speaks to me or my mother. He might have a few words for our mother but that's rarely and only with alcohol on board of him. Other times, he's just criticising her and giving out to her and shouting at her. The day after Christmas he got up looking for a particular shirt which turns out it wasn't clean which set him off in a storm around the house. What got to me was that he had other clean shirts in his room but he wanted the very short that wasn't clean. It was psychopath material from him. So fucking what his shirt was clean. He has other good shirts to choose from. It seemed to me as if he was only just looking for a row.
An issue came about for me within the family home. I think it's time for him to start paying his way towards bills. Bills come in and there are split down the middle between my mother and I. I was ok with this for a long time but he's in full time employment now for over 18 months and I think it's time.
This was an issue I brought up time and time again within the past few months. My mother said there will be changes come the new year and she will be getting him to pay his way. I knew in my heart and soul this was rubbish talk from her and he hadn't a fucking notion of even picking 5 euro from her little darling lord of her son.
I've been searching left right and centre for new work that would pay better, for accommodation too. I'm not fussy and a room to rent in a house share would do me. I'm having no luck to date.
I'm still at home and in this piece of shit situation. Paying left, right and centre on my low income towards household bills. He should be chipping in his share. He uses electricity for his TV and gadgets in his room, he has hot showers, etc. Paying left, right and centre for a rude prick that hasn't talked to me in a year.
He has money to help. He works so much over time. He must be getting the guts of 1350 to 1900 a month in wages if not more, after tax too. He does have a car but I did some rough estimates and it would probably be costing him 600/650 a month. The man has the money. He bought a TV for his girlfriend for a Christmas present in black Friday deals. I checked online the price and it was 250 euro.
Today, I learned not only is he going out tonight, he's also going away for a foreign break in February for valentine's day with his girlfriend.
This is not the actions of someone who does not have the money to pay his way. My mother is more than happy to be made a fool of but I will not stand for this.
The least he could do is have a bit of manners and respect towards the two that is keeping the show on the road at home but he doesn't have it in him. He's a dirty free loader and that's all he is.
Enough is enough.
I'm trying my best at getting out from this situation but I'm having no luck so far. During the Christmas I googled suicide methods just to permanently remove myself if this doesn't get better.
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My brother is a callous b@stard and that's all he is.
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He cheated insurance some years ago. I think it was around about 2012 or 2013 when someone drove into the back of his car.
He turned around and claimed whiplash even though there was nothing wrong with him.
Eventually in 2014 a compo payout came in for him, to the tune of 10,000 euro.
He didn't tell anyone in the family. He fecked of out abroad to Canada with some friends. My mother was left humiliated one day in the shop meeting the mother of one of his friends. The other lady said 'so and so (her son's name) is great at keeping in touch, Do you ever hear from your lad, she asked my mother? 6 months went by and my mother didn't hear from him once. My mother went rooting in his room and found the insurance letter with payout sum.
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I've got a good mind to report him for insurance fraud. He's a dirty bum without giving any respect back in return. My mother is more than happy to put up with him and enable him. If he was out renting he would get a good dose of reality to smack him in the face. Of course this is never going to happen. Its too handy at home for him. He doesn't pay 1 cent, he gets his room and laundry cleaned by his mother while he turns around and abuses her at the same time.
I'm thinking he needs reality to smack him in the face. If he had to pay back that insurance sum, it would surely help in delivering that to him. Imagine, if he had to work to pay bills like the rest of us?