I don't know whether I'm overreacting or not but this has upset me and I need perspective.
I have posted about my relationship with my oh and have had issues with him in the past relating to infidelity/money problems etc and at new year he complained that my kids not sleeping over at their dads (they're all getting older so have more of a say) has resulted in our sex life becoming dull.
I decided that I didn't want to be with him any longer as I felt that his attitude conflicted with my desire to sensitively parent my kids and help them foster a good relationship with their dad (which has sometimes been a bit rocky with my eldest).
I haven't seen him since jan 1st but I run a business in which he is significantly entwined, so agreed to meet today to break the ice as we will, until we form an exit plan, have to work together. Today was the first time we have seen each other for nearly 2 weeks.
I have recently gone back to uni to get my creative arts degree (relevant)
We were talking and he was asking about a project I was working on. I mentioned the word semiotics and he immediately interrupted with a smutty comment which I felt was a bit in poor taste under the circumstances.
When I said (calmly) that I didn't feel he was listening/taking me seriously he replied "oh don't be so stupid, I know you like it but it's not like you're finding a cure for cancer'.
I felt completely shut down and felt minimised, ridiculed and belittled.
My self esteem has taken a hit so I could be projecting a bit but he's insisting all the negativity is because of me and in no way has he belittled me, and it's my skewed perception.
I said his words were unkind and unnecessary and he needs to acknowledge that and all he said was: I acknowledge you feel the way you do.
Am I going mad? Am I being oversensitive? I wouldn't say something like to to someone because it sounds horrible and dismissive but he makes me feel like I'm going bonkers?
Sorry it's long - wanted to give a rounded picture of my circumstances.