To ask you to tell me I should be grateful and stop being so paranoid?

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I think I'm being totally unreasonable to even think this but I can't help it.

We have a 6 week old baby and for some reason my sex drive completely disappeared about 2 months before he was born and is still nowhere in sight.
I was lucky to have a straightforward labour, no tearing etc, recovered very quickly and pretty much feel "back to normal". I still find my DH attractive but I just don't have any sex drive at all, not even a fraction, I have never felt like this even after my first DC where I really struggled with the recovery and DC1.

DH has made it obvious he's very up for it. He's constantly showering me with compliments, has told me how attractive he finds me, has been almost acting like a lovesick teenager and he seems constantly attracted to me, more so than before probably due to how long it's been.
Just to clarify he has not come onto me in any way shape or form and hasn't been pestering me for sex as I had told him I'm not really feeling it.
Last night we were having a giggle about how obviously "horny" he has been over the last weeks and how I'm just not into it and I expressed that I think it's weird but I've got no sexual urges whatsoever and it's like my drive has just died. He told me that that's ok and he completely understands it and doesn't mind.

Now that should make me feel happy and secure that I've got a loving, respectful partner yes?
Then why am I freaking out in my head thinking he must be getting it somewhere else as he has been so up for it and is now saying he doesn't mind.
He works long hours and is going away soon for a week for work which will include lots of social drinks and meals with clients and I'm going to be sat at home with leaky boobs a baby and toddler on my head and my mind is going into overdrive.

I'm being completely BU I know that but I don't know how to stop.
Please help me deal with my paranoid thoughts?

You’re being paranoid.

Hope that helps!

Congrats on the newborn though, just give yourself time to adjust.

You're fine! Unless he's given you any other cause to be suspicious, i wouldn't worry.

My sex drive upped and left for about 4 years in total, and the thought of anything like that would have had me running in the opposite direction at 6 weeks post-partum.

Congratulations on your gorgeous squishy baby.

I had the same problem with my sex drive - lasted eight months. Same thing with my DH at first, but realised I was being a bit paranoid. It will pass.

I think he is taking the pressure off you (rightly so) in the hope that this helps perhaps

You're being paranoid - but I would be exactly the same so no judgement here! Honestly, I think the media pushes this idea into us that all men are desperate for sex all the time and can't live without it and that makes us panic if we're not 'putting out' for want of a better phrase. But I'm pretty sure that my husband could survive without sex for quite a while and if there was a good reason why I wasn't up for it, he'd be totally willing to wait. And he certainly wouldn't feel the need to look elsewhere! I'm sure the same is true of your husband. You're talking about it and that's all that matters.

It's not unusual to feel like this. I got giggy with it about 8 weeks after ds1 and 2 weeks after ds2. I can understand you feeling paranoid, but it sounds like you dp isn't pressurising you.