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Mystery Male Hobbies Uncovered

49 replies

RandomNumber42 · 11/01/2018 21:47

So I have seen many a thread about mysterious male hobbies that some are very afraid of being identified by releasing what these hobbies are. So I give you my secret... I AM A MAN (this is not the secret!)

My hobby that takes me away from my partner and 2 year old son is Dungeons & Dragons and not the expected hobby of lycra and vehicles with two wheels.

For one evening a week I travel to my local city where I spend £2 on parking. I make my way to a store that sells board games and once I am there I become a GOD!
60 people turn up on average every week wanting to play, these people are not your standards nerds and geek (well some are) but we have a good mixture of sex, race, religion and race. We even have a good proportion of players who have special needs or disabilities who play. Ages range from 8 year olds who come with a parent to 80 year olds (who also come with their parents [lie, maybe their woo ghost's]). I then organise these people into groups where they Roleplay their fantasy characters through dangerous missions. My group of six people who I DM (Dungeon Master) for are currently walking through a jungle filled with zombies and dinosaurs trying to figure out what strange curse has been put on this world that does not allow the dead to be brought back to life!

I have been organising and playing for just two years now. The work I done in telling/Directing a comunal fantasy roleplaying story has helped countless people with varying problems. We have found that we have become support workers for people with autism and adhd where they find escape in becoming a different person. People who were once terrified of being in groups or with strangers now make small talk with ease (not saying it works for everyone).

But don't just take my word for it Mayim Bialik from The Big Bang Theory describes what it has done for her and her family.

Now onto the point of cost how much does this hobby cost me? Well other than the diesel and parking money its the cost of a pencil a sheet of paper and a set of D&D dice (around £5). You can get free basic rules online dnd.wizards.com/articles/features/basicrules but if you do become serious then most players end up with a few sets of dice (they are pretty and addictive) as well as a book called the Players Handbook which is around £20 on amazon. Of course you can spend a lot more but most just have the basic book.

AIBU to show you the great joys you could have with friends and family, or am I just another man with a hobby who cares about no one else but himself?

D&D is definitely not just for Nerds, Geeks and Devil Worshippers. would you call Vin Diesel any of these?

Do you want to share your or your partners mystery Hobby?

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LivingDeadGirlUK · 11/01/2018 21:52

Me and my partner used to play D&D before we had our son. Now we are both too tired to think :)

ILoveDolly · 11/01/2018 21:53

It's a good sell Grin

EduCated · 11/01/2018 21:56

What makes a Male hobby mysterious? Or indeed a mysterious hobby Male? Or a Male a mysterious hobby?

Why does my phone keep capitalising Male? So many questions.

SlowlyShrinking · 11/01/2018 21:56

It sounds much better than I would have assumed, I must admit

SlowlyShrinking · 11/01/2018 21:58

Is it an iPhone EduCated ?
Mine has started capitalising Male too. I assume it’s sonet to do with the patriarchy. It’s bloody annoying! (Just like the patriarchy)

SlowlyShrinking · 11/01/2018 21:59

Something, not sonet

Rhynswynd · 11/01/2018 22:02

My DH loves D&D. He keeps trying to get me to play. I really don't want to but I am more than happy for him to sod off to the local game store once a week. He eats pizza and has fun pretending to be an orc running around town killing things. He loves it.

FadedRed · 11/01/2018 22:02

Perhaps your phones think you are referring to the capital city of the Maldives?

SilverySurfer · 11/01/2018 22:04

Sounds a lot more interesting than some male hobbies mentioned on here, which normally turn out to be cycling or marathon running [snore].

I prefer to play online MMRPGs like World of Warcraft where I can hack and slash my way through mobs in a dungeon - it's great if you've had a bad day. I'm ancient but it doesn't stop me enjoying playing.

Lilyyulelog · 11/01/2018 22:04

Wow

PlumFairy2014 · 11/01/2018 22:06

I know someone's DH who spends 4 nights a week Bell ringing.
She always kept it quiet, not sure why.

letsgomaths · 11/01/2018 22:09

I know a few male DPs or DHs who have a mysterious hobby, which they dare not share with all and sundry: netball. They don't always tell, because many people think it's a women's game. Occasionally they moan that the rules of mixed netball are unfair to men (no more than three men on a team, and only one in each third of the court). I thought that might tickle MN.

Shineystrawberrylover · 11/01/2018 22:13

I am so over LARP. Totally because of the general acceptance into the community of known sex offenders, general harrassment of women and vulnerable young adults.

girlandboy · 11/01/2018 22:28

Plumfairy I'm a church bellringer too! 😃

girlandboy · 11/01/2018 22:29

Oops! But I'm not a man Blush

Xihha · 11/01/2018 22:37

my local pub has D&D nights, DH drinks (and therefore spends) far less while playing than he would while just out for a beer, there is no equipment to get in my way and no sweaty smelly lycra, so it's a great hobby in my opinion

BoneyBackJefferson · 11/01/2018 22:43

Shineystrawberrylover
I am so over LARP.

LARP is not D&D

FlibbertyGiblets · 11/01/2018 23:51

Our older teens play D and D at the local community centre. As per the OP, the age range of players is staggeringly wide and oh, another thing - not just a Bloke Thing.

Low tech. (pencil paper dice)
There are manuals to read.
Kind of wholesome, like Scrabble Club or yes, bellringing.

Bufferingkisses · 12/01/2018 00:15

It's like herbalife for geeks. Shock

Forgive me if I don't take up your really obvious sell Hmm

Bufferingkisses · 12/01/2018 00:16

Oops forgot to mention, said as a lifelong role player.

GlacindaTheTroll · 12/01/2018 00:18

"I've never played D&D with girls before!"

"Don't worry sweetie, no-one has"

5foot5 · 12/01/2018 00:19

Yes I am sure it is great fun and DH used to be in to it years ago.
But why do you title this thread as a mysterious male hobby when by your own description we have a good mixture of sex, race, religion and race

NiceViper · 12/01/2018 00:22

"we have a good mixture of sex, race, religion and race"

Sounds like a Sunday running club....

GreenFingeredGardener7 · 12/01/2018 00:47

Yawn. Your boring sell certainly hasn’t worked on me.

RandomNumber42 · 12/01/2018 08:42

This is definitely not a sell in that I get anything out of it. However I will admit that I would like to see more people playing board games to encourage personal communication. As no matter how great the Internet and mobile phones are, people's ability to communicate without technology is just appalling in recent years.

That and I'm curious of these other mystery male Hobbies out there.

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