AIBU to go to the docs and demand help about my periods turning me into a crazy bitch!

[Shadow1986]

Apologies, posting again here for traffic!

So every month, while I’m on my period, I would say for about a week my mood is low - very low. Im in a constant bad mood, glass half empty mood...no patience whatsoever with the kids. Most days I’m on the brink of tears, even a song can set me off. Crazy over reacting to the kids etc. I go completely out my normal routine of socialising and going to the gym and spend a lot of time alone at home as don’t want to see anyone.
In addition I have heavy bleeding, and also I’m convinced I have pretty substantial hair loss while I’m on my period.

Dark thoughts - would kids be better without me etc?

Does this sound normal PMS or not? Everything to me including the hair loss, convinced me my hormones are going haywire at this time. What will help?!

I’m just coming out of a dark week now and I’m like woah that was bad...help!

I’m not on any contraception, maybe I should be...also I went to docs once during a dark week and was prescribed antidepressants...but I feel this is hormonal.

Evening Primrose Oil tablets have transformed my life. I was like you before. Dark.

JemOBalm - I’ve heard of this but I just thought how could it possible make a dent in this! Very interesting though thanks.

I thought the same. Then a friend said his girlfriend was cray without them. I tried and been taking them regularly for 4-5 years now. I wouldn't not.
Try it. You'll know after 2-3 months.

*crazy

Thanks so much - just ordered some JemOBalm

Can I ask how old you are
As I am having the same symptoms at the moment spent 3 hours crying Monday x I thought it was mr age I'm 42 and hormones feel like I'm 18 again !

Fluoxetine. I feel like I've got my life back again.

Im 31 and had a baby 18 months ago, not sure if it’s related

NextIndia - is this something prescribed to you?

Fluoxetine (prozac) is now licensed for use now pmt in the UK.... Very effective. Go to your gp

Have you thought about a Mirena IUD? I was having ghastly PMT on the pill and heavy periods.

Switched to the Mirena and it pretty much solved both. Mild PMT and almost no bleed at all.

It's worth considering.

SweetChickadee - not something I had really considered but at this point I’m willing to try anything.

Can I really REALLY recommend agnus castus for PMT. Rebalances the hormones

Theredjellybean - interesting, I was on citilopram before - I will do some research on this.

Could it be Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) ?
..."a condition in which a woman has severe depression symptoms, irritability, and tension before menstruation. The symptoms of PMDD are more severe than those seen with premenstrual syndrome (PMS)."

These kind of sypmtoms are not normal and you shouldn't have to suffer through it alone every month. Definitely speak to your doctor again, insist on a full blood test (specifically get your thyroid checked) and don't just get fobbed off with ant-depressants.

Good luck!

Going on the pill really helped me

In 41. I get it too. Every month. I thought I was going mad. Seriously feel suicidal, dark and low. I might try evening primrose oil. Also magnesium citrate has been suggested so I got some on offer yesterday.

Could you also be anemic? This would make your periods and their side effects much worse.

Thanks for all comments so far.

Yes I apparently do have low iron, that came out of my last bloods but nothing else was mentioned - just docs receptionist said there was a prescription for iron tablets waiting for me. I took them for about a couple months but they were pretty grim. And my hair was still shedding and didn’t feel any different.

It sounds like me; I have PMDD. Zoloft really helps.

A large dose of B6 has done wonders for my PMT.
Cheap, easy to get hold of, harmless in doses up to 100mg a day, and evidence-based.
ebm.bmj.com/content/4/6/182

It’s tough, really tough in this situation. I’ve suffered for decades with disabling PMS and have tried so many different things to alleviate the symptoms.
I’ve pretty much tried everything as described by the other posters. Fluxotine has been a saviour plus regular exercise. It can be difficult to get motivated when you’re so low but I find that the exercise really helps.
The raging is hideous because you can hear yourself ‘going off on one’ but can’t stop . It’s the comedown that causes me so much upset and disappointment in myself .
What the OP also says about self exiling is so true too. My family and friends have become used to me going into hiding . I think I do it for self preservation .
So for me , drugs and exercise dampen the symptoms but certainly don’t rid me of them.
I’ve reread this and I don’t wish to be negative , it’s just hard and there’s no magic wand . Trial and error I suppose . Good luck. My heart goes out to go .

Manicbutfunctioning - the way you describe the rage and the the come down 😩 you couldn’t have explained how I feel any better. And to make matters worse it’s always to my lovely kids - just so miserable to them sometimes. Then I spend my days in such despair at my stupid self. I love them so much and yet I literally can’t control myself being snappy and losing it. Then on other days my mind, sanity and patience seems restored. But I can’t undo the days where they weren’t!

Following this thread as I feel exactly the same. It’s awful and I feel so bad for my kids and they seem to bear the brunt of it then I go and cry and hate on myself.

Will give the evening primrose a try. Would
rather not take Prozac if I can help it.

Blood tests, thyroid check, prozac. Life changer.