TLDR: how do you pull out of a lift arrangement without offending people?
Thursday is busy in my house. Daughter does dancing 7 - 8.30. Son does Karate 7.15 to 9. Friend who lives up the road has children doing same activities. Neighbour across the road has a daughter at dancing too.
So arrangement is that friend will take all five children, dropping girls at dancing them boys at karate.
Neighbour collects the three girls from dancing at 8.30 and drops them home.
I get boys from karate.
No issues with neighbour. Lovely woman, very organised and on the ball. Friend totally different matter. Doesn't "do" texts or messaging apps. Never quite sure when she's coming. Often late. Tonight she turns up with some extra child, her car is like a skip, she has the smallest children on booster cushions and expects my 11 year old to squeeze into a highback booster in the back.
So WIBU to tell her that from now on I'll sort myself out and come to a private arrangement with lovely neighbour? I am not prepared to put up with the chaos, disorganisation and car seat randomness until June when the classes finish.
It is doing my head it. Want to keep friend as a friend as she has a very kind heart and is good company, but cannot put up with this lifts thing any longer. How do I phrase it without offending everyone???