To ask DH why he keeps looking at the same girls profile?

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My DH used my phone to log into Instagram a while ago and left it logged in. I go on it sometimes for a browse as I don't have my own Instagram account. I've noticed that he seems to be searching for the same girl time and time again. Also one minute he's following her and then she follows him. Then he unfollows her and she unfollows him, then they're following each other again. It's all a bit weird. I rightly or wrongly checked his private messages on there and there's nothing on there (only messages to his friends). I just can't help but think it's a bit weird and it's making me feel uneasy. I don't know if I should ask him why he's keeps seeking her out or just leave it and log it out of my phone so I don't have to see it? He searches other girls too...all younger and prettier and my self esteem is already low. Sorry this all sounds really pathetic.

I forgot the crucial fact! The girl he keeps searching for is the girl he was seeing before we got together (over 10 years ago!)

I don't want this to sounds facetious, but I think the only person you really need to ask is your DH - the rest of us would only be guessing.

Lifes too short for that shit

So he is stalking an ex?

No you don't sound pathetic OP. I think he's the one being pathetic. Tbh,it sounds like he's stalking an ex. I think you need to ask him outright what he's playing at.

The following/unfollowing is maybe a form of communication in itself?

It is weird and I'd have to ask him if I were you.

I don't know if it's stalking exactly but definitely seems to be seeking her out from what I can see.

YANBU to ask him anything, why wouldn't you?

However, I'm not sure I see the point in this thread as many people here will just whip you up into a frenzy, by making wild unfounded accusations.

Just speak to him about it.

My self esteem and confidence is so low at the moment (GP appointment tomorrow). I don't know if I'm just overthinking it.

As PopFart said above, it sounds like a form of communication- I really don't wish to alarm you but if he were stalking her she would have likely set her profile to 'private' by now, and you can't follow a private profile unless they approve the request. Ask him.

Her profile is set to private so I know they need to be requesting each other.

Oh dear OP you really should ask him I know I would! It's not great that you've seen something on his personal account but it is your phone and that is very odd behaviour when you add the fact that he has history with her to the mix.

Are you certain it's the same profile?
I know some people create loads of different profiles quite often for whatever reason.

He would have to be really stupid to use your phone if he was up to anything.
Let's be honest we're all curious as to how old flames have turned out, social media just means it's easy to see.