To give DP an ear bashing over his tax return (or lack of...)

[Snowfire]

It’s that time of year again where the self employed are getting their tax returns in order before the end of month deadline. Not DP though, he still hasn’t sent his in for last year! He has had a couple of fines come through which he has paid but otherwise his head is firmly wedged in the sand over it all.
His work is always busier at this time of year so he is working a lot of hours at the moment but I’m getting really stressed about this, as he just doesn’t see it as a priority.
Would IBU to tell him to book a week off even though he’s busy so that he can get on top of it all? I have offered to help but he just makes excuses.

This could end up worse than fines. He's avoiding tax and eventually this will catch up with him.

Does he understand that? Or does he think they just won't care that he isn't paying tax.

Get the number for an accountant, call them and then hand him the phone.

It is all about organisation as you go along, using spreadsheets for all the categories of income and allowances. I put my 2017/18 in on April 10th and it took me about half an hour. I now have until end of Jan 2019 to pay the tax which I do periodically as income comes in - its really simple to keep on top of it all.

Why are you even still with him?

Does he realise he penalties alone are over £500 and rising daily??

I hope you've still got your finances separate OP. With this level of sheer ostrich mentality there's no way I would ever trust your OH to sort out anything important.

Does he understand that deliberately not filing his returns and deliberately not paying his tax crosses the line into tax evasion and money laundering?

It's not "nagging" to ask him why he's not complying with the law. He is being an unreasonable bastard at this point. And manipulative to boot if he's throwing nonsense accusations at you to deflect from his own behaviour.

Fines are the tip of the iceberg, they’re clamping right down on not doing tax returns. DP was threatened with court and massive fines when he didn’t do his until we got our solicitor to write a letter saying he couldn’t until they sorted out his unique reference number and code!!! As soon as they had he did his tax return and the fines paid thus far were refunded because it genuinely wasn’t his fault.

Well my ex didn’t do his tax return for 5 years!

They caught up with him eventually
There’s no sympathy from HMRC at all
They fine you initially then fine you daily adding interest onto the fines
And it just snowballs
Really really really not worth it

This problem is going to stalk your relationship. Sorry. He might well be lovely, but if him not taking peronsal/business financial responsibility is going to mean you not having savings, holidays or stability that sounds awful and would be a deal breaker for me.