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To ask if you'd choose Oxford, Cambridge or Reading to live in?

125 replies

Luffer · 11/01/2018 10:44

It's more likely we will live in a village outside one of the three. Choosing between the three and finding it tricky.

OP posts:
irregularegular · 11/01/2018 11:20

Not all of Reading is a shit hole. Caversham is nice.

Flumpernickel · 11/01/2018 11:25

Reading is not a shithole! Hmm the same as any large city, it has undesirable areas, but there are some lovely lovely parts, I do agree that the traffic is shocking, but it is london commuter belt, so that is to be expected!

thetwinkletoescollective · 11/01/2018 11:29

Ummmmmmmmmmmmm Caversham is nice, Sonning is lovely.

Reading itself and a lot of the surrounding town/villages like Tilehurst, Woodley, Wokingham feel very claustrophobic and big all at the same time.
Its a place that people live rather than you would go to visit for its beauty. However a very very short drive from Reading and you are in the most stunning countryside.

Forbury gardens, and the Abbey Ruins are nice in the summer. There's some Reading positivity!

GlitterUnicornsAndAllThatJazz · 11/01/2018 11:29

@Flumpernickel
No, compared to most other big cities, it is entirely without charm or soul, its dead eyed, full of office blocks and car parks. The odd park here and there doesn't make it home to "some nice parts". There's nothing to do there, everyone escapes to London for their culture and nightlife, as a result its a dead eyed place.

WhatIWant · 11/01/2018 11:32

Ive got to know Reading a lot better recently asa family member moved there and I'm surprised at how I've grown to like it. I actually really like it! Obviously Oxford is stunning but traffic and parking is a pain.

I'd chose Oxford if I could afford to live centrally but if you are looking to buy in a village outside then I wouldn't dismiss Reading.

Flumpernickel · 11/01/2018 11:34

What would I know? Hmm

Sorry for overstepping glitter clearly you are the one and only, final authority on Reading. My apologies.

No charm or soul huh? Grin

Flumpernickel · 11/01/2018 11:37

Anyway OP, go stay, check out some of the villages around the various areas.... depending on your budget and outlook, Reading could be wonderful or it could be shit, it really depends to be honest.

SottoVoc3 · 11/01/2018 11:41

Lived in or around Cambridge for 10 years. It is a fabulous city. It is also hideously expensive, overcrowded and the traffic is appalling.
If I won the lottery and could live somewhere central and fabulous, I'd be straight back. If I won the lottery.

Ratonastick · 11/01/2018 11:42

I live in a village near Reading. I love it, it’s an easy commute and the bits of Reading I go into are perfectly fine.

I used to live in Oxford then I a village just outside Oxford and hated it. The city is beautiful but massively polluted and full of tourists. It doesn’t have a huge social thing unless you are connected to the uni or into things like classical music.

Schools are very difficult and my moves have been driven by DSs education. Oxford schools are very mixed, particularly as private schools like Magdalen suck up the really talented students which drives some of the state schools into a bit of a negative spiral or performance and money. It’s also not helped as Bucks next door still has 11+ and grammar so Oxfordshire picks up a lot of educational slack, especially close to the border (eg Thame). Basically you could be absolutely fine and land in excellent schools, but you need to be very selective about area which means that house prices can be eye watering.

So basically, I would say that City centre living wouldn’t be for me in Oxford or Reading and village living is better around Reading. I have never set foot in Cambridge, so can’t help there.

Shoxfordian · 11/01/2018 11:43

I used to live in Oxford and its such a lovely city so I would probably choose there from your options.

There's lots of nice areas of oxford and a really good theatre scene; little independents and student stuff as well as main theatres.

I also don't think Reading is a shithole! Its got some good shops and the canal area is nice.

TheFaerieQueene · 11/01/2018 11:46

I live in the Chilterns in a village near Henley which is good for Reading and Oxford. I would consider this as a great option but you will need a car!

SapphireSeptember · 11/01/2018 11:46

Oxford, although I'm biased as I was born there. Grin I live near Cambridge now (well, near-ish, Peterborough is closer,) and it's nice, but I still prefer Oxford.

Drivemecrazy1974 · 11/01/2018 11:50

I live in Oxford and, honestly, I can't wait to be able to move away. I've lived here all of my life and I really really don't like it here any more.
The traffic is awful, house prices are horrendous, rental prices even more so, and there's talk of even more housing being built which will mean even more traffic.
If you really want to move to Oxford, I'd advise thinking about one of the villages like Wallingford (very pretty) or Wheatley.
All the people saying Oxford is beautiful obviously have only visited as tourists.
In the summer, the town centre is overrun with tourists and students who wouldn't know how to queue if somebody explained it to them a thousand times.
If I could move to a house by the sea tomorrow, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

PricklyBall · 11/01/2018 11:51

Having lived in all three, my personal choice would be a toss up between Oxford and Reading.

Oxford - clearly a more beautiful place than Reading, lots going on culturally, lots to do in the city itself. But about an hour from London. by bus or train. Fearsomely expensive.

Reading - bit of a dump (though I have a great affection for it, it's almost like a bit of the gritty north transplanted down south, and I grew up in the north so like that sort of vibe). But - here's the great thing - half an hour on the train to London, so you can do things like go to concerts in London and still get home. Marginally better transport links too. And cheaper.

Since you say you'd be living in a village outside the town itself, there are lots of really nice little villages just north of Reading (though that rather undoes the "half an hour to London" advantage).

(Apologies to the inhabitants, but Cambridge doesn't float my boat, personally. I can see it's beautiful, but in a way that makes me think of painted scenery flats for theatre, rather than a real place. It's also too small - if you took the university out of the middle it would disappear. And I always hear Rupert Brooke's "for Cambridge people seldom smile/being urban, squat and full of guile" - unfair I know, but I just didn't warm to the place).

Juanbablo · 11/01/2018 11:52

I live in a village between Reading and Oxford. Oxford is beautiful, full of culture and things to see and do. Good train links.

Reading isn't so pretty but easy to get to London and although traffic is bad at times you can pretty much get whatever you need there. Cheaper than Oxford.

TheFaerieQueene · 11/01/2018 11:59

Waves to everyone in villages in South Oxfordshire 👋

RavingRoo · 11/01/2018 12:01

Oxford

ipsofatto234 · 11/01/2018 12:02

Like a PP, I lived in Reading for two years and couldn't wait to get out of the place - awful. I'd go for Cambridge.

ShatnersWig · 11/01/2018 12:03

None of the above.

Tobebythesea · 11/01/2018 12:12

I like Reading but I grew up there. As others have said, there are a lot of pretty villages nearby.

Both Oxford and Cambridge are ridiculously expensive for housing.

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 11/01/2018 12:12

Sorry for overstepping glitter clearly you are the one and only, final authority on Reading. My apologies.

Such an authority, in fact, that glitter doesn't seem aware that not only is Reading not a "big city" it's not even in fact a city! Grin

Reading town centre is in indeed quite grim. We are really lacking independent shops, cinemas etc etc. It doesn't really seem quite fair to compare it to actual proper big cities like Oxford or Cambridge as we clearly don't have the beauty or culture.

As a previous poster said, if you go for a village between Reading and Oxford, both would be commutable for work and schools and London is within easy reach too.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 11/01/2018 12:14

I've never lived in Reading but have lived for several years in each of the others. Cambridge all the way. It's smaller, cleaner, greener, friendlier, and has better bus services (though, to be fair, that isn't saying much). House prices are ridiculous in both, obviously. I've been living in Cambridge since 2014 and went back to Oxford for a work thing earlier this week. I was just so struck by how gloomy and ugly it is. Sure, there are pretty bits tucked away in colleges, and there's Port Meadow. But the centre is a hole.

BattleCuntGalactica · 11/01/2018 12:15

Why is this in AIBU?

LaurieFairyCake · 11/01/2018 12:32

I think all 3 are pretty much the worst for traffic possible meaning that your only option is suburbia if you can't afford the city centre.

And basically suburbia doesn't change much anywhere Grin

If you can't afford the city centre then pick the place you like where you can get to the city centre easily by public transport.

This is an example of a reasonable house in the City centre of Oxford. No idea if it floats your boat but it is walkable to everything.

To ask if you'd choose Oxford, Cambridge or Reading to live in?
PinkietheElf · 11/01/2018 12:34

I would check out any commutes you need to make. Living in a village is great but if you have to get to the station to commute to London it needs checking out first.

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