to think that people who post in this section have no business getting shirty when they get the full range of opinions?

[mytwopenceworth]

if you ask the question - bloody accept you might get told yes. and exactly why in no uncertain terms.

if you want sympathy and a pat on the shoulder this is not the section.

do not throw your dummy out of the pram because you had to face the fact that yes, it really sounds like you were unreasonable.

i love this section and you're spoiling it for me!! grr.

stop with the
"am i being unreasonable?"
"yes"
"well how very dare you"

i want to boot you up the bum - AIBU???

I think maybe the violence you want to exert on posters' nether-regions may be unreasonable, but the rest of the sentiment is on balance, reasonable.

no

you unreasonable fucker

well how very dare you

I too love this section I am driving dp mad at the moment with my "ooohhh listen to this one, do you think she's being unreasonable" chat.

Don't think you are by the way, think it's the best thing about it getting the complete range of opinions.

We should have a 'Boot up the bum' section .

and what the hell do you know twopenceworth, eh?, eh?, eh? Jesus, How totally unreasonable are you?

LOL TinyGang, now that section would be even better than AIBU!

actually, I think, in the mildest possible way, that you are being a bit unreasonable. Sometimes people just want to unload and get a bit of sympathy - an essentially feminine way of communicating - and they dont want opinions.

If someone posts "AIBU? - the answer's no btw", then their pmt should be respected, imo.

MTPW for PM!

Here, here!

As a fellow unreasonable fan, YABU. I am sure it's in Mumsnet Law somewhere that if people disagree with you, you're actually allowed to disagree back! There's a difference between giving your opinion and being deliberately confrontational but sometimes the boundaries get blurred.

As an example, there was a thread on here which I was reading yesterday and I got the distinct impression that people weren't only giving their opinions, but getting a bit accusatory towards the OP, who had previously agreed and said 'yes you are right I am being unreasonable' and then who got annoyed with her/him when 30 more accusatory messages later s/he finally told them to shove it. Not unreasonable in my view, I'd tell you lot to pack it in too!

After all, we don't want total pansies posting do we? It makes for much better reading if posters give as good as they get!

Not unreasonable at all.

Who did that? What did I miss?

i love this thread too!!

i think it is entirely healthy to be told others have a different view - our rl friends wont do that; they say:

you are right
i agree
you look great
your child is lovely not naughty at all
we love macdonalds
a gift list is a great idea

so are you insinuating there that we're only allowed to disagree with people if they're in the AIBU section or did I read that into it

I should like to know which one is the section for 'please agree with everything I say and tell me how fabulous I am' I think I've missed it in the last few years

you read that into it Twig. i wasn't thinking about the rest of the site at all. just this. AIBU. if you ask, you must be prepared to receive opinions without getting mad (unless people start to insult you, which is a different issue).

people posting pretending to want honest opinions when they really expect and want to be agreed with, then chucking the rattle out of the playpen when someone says something they don't like is annoying sitewide, but in AIBU it is especially so.

getting heated and disagreeing about something is different to AIBU, which is asking for, well, a judgement!!

No. If posters want sympathy, they should ask for sympathy. If you ask for opinions and get them, take it on the chin.

In AIBU we're only getting half a story though. Surely whoever posts an AIBU has the advantage of knowing the whole story (including if they privately know that they are really being unreasonable but just want to rant and get some sympathy). It must be irritating to be told you are being unreasonable in that case.

But surely these threads are even more fun if people get shirty

i love reading this section, but will never start a thread in it myself.

i know when i'm being unreasonable