Just want them to wipe.

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At a new nursery where the staff are lovely, the setting is known by my DD and she seems really happy. First day. I'd mentioned on her form that she's prone to UTIs and has had a few, so please make sure she's wiped front to back and helped on the loo. She's only recently potty trained but taken to it fast; I wipe her at home.
Pick her up and find out staff aren't allowed to wipe their bottoms and she has to do it herself, she went once supervised to the loo and twice alone. She's 2 and a half. We tried seeing how well she could do this when we got home, explaining what to do. She can't, she just scrubs forward and back. She can't really reach herself from the back which might help with just going one way. She's just too young.
So now I'm just sitting waiting for the UTI I guess. I wish I hadn't potty trained her so at least she'd be cleaned up when she had a wet nappy. It's just the one issue where I really needed things to be monitored - making sure she drinks her drink and is wiped front to back.
Just wanted to vent really. I was really hopeful about her going there and hadn't even imagined there'd be no toilet help. Maybe I'll have to wait until she's old enough to do it properly herself which will be cutting it fine as I'll be working full time from Sept and I wanted to ease her in. Is it the norm to not be allowed to wipe for children?
So as not to drip feed, it's in the family to be prone to them. She's not been referred to a paed yet as the last time her sample wasn't enough to send off yet was enough for antibios.

Yes, I'm constantly getting her to sip and I started to sometimes lace her water with a tiny bit of cranberry. Haven't done boil wash though, that's a plan. Also changed from baths to showers plus one bath a week.
My main thing now is that I don't want to cause friction with her key worker by going over her head to the manager or arranging meetings just yet. If, after a friendly chat, her position is adamant that she won't help her, then I would just want their clarification on policy before anything else, because it seems to be the case that policy allows them to help. The wording is broad enough ' avoid 1:1 when possible' and 'independence within limits of their ability'.
It's just such a shame that it's not all just straightforward as I've really put time into developing mine and DDs relationships with the staff.
With dabbing technique I've noticed that her cheeks are still wet with splashes, so that's not effective enough. Sigh.

With regards to the cranberry, it might be worth investigating cranberry capsules, too. They can be broken open and mixed into food (like yoghurt, cereal, etc), have much less sugar or sweetener than juice, and it means a regular dose is able to be monitored.

Spoken to person at nursery and thoroughly reassured that they'd do everything I asked/she needed. She was really, really lovely and said 'she's only two' in an understanding way. She's been there longer than the other member of staff who said no wiping, BUT that member of staff is her superior...still, it clearly isn't a problem so now my only worry is WHY the other staff member (who I have actually spent more time getting to know) gave me wrong information. Still, it's a huge weight off and DD was ecstatic going in today.