He's Latino, he'll cheat on you...

[Veryfedup2012]

AIBU to think this is NOT an acceptable thing to say?

I recently started dating a lovely Latino man. Only very new but he's been great so far. There are some cultural differences, but nothing major. Mostly he's been kind, courteous and an amazing guy.

However I keep hearing- "He's Latino, watch out for it, he'll cheat on you." And "Bet he has ten other women, as well as you!"

This has been from my father and my best friend. Constant, barbed comments about him cheating on me as 'Latino men are like that.'

I find it really distasteful. And fed up.

AIBU to be so fed up and pissed off and not to see how this is funny?

Are they trying to say it's a joke?

YANBU to be fed up and pissed off? Have you told them how you feel?

Well my friend seems to be joking. But it's very constant

My father is just very racist and is very sneery when I date anyone who is not British in general

I've never heard that stereotype associated with Latino men before but yeah that's a horrible thing to say to you YANBU

I have never heard the term Latino used to describe UK citizens. Where is he from?

There is a cultural difference that in some S American societies cheating is seen as acceptable and proof of masculinity and almost even desirable for the woman (you must have a good man if other women want him). Also that he can afford two women is good. Chilean society often this is true.

Of course it's not universal. But something to be aware of and perhaps discuss with him.

YANBU it's racist. Not funny at all.

My boyfriend has already made it clear that we are exclusive. Ironically he actually double checked with ME that I was intending on seeing him only. He's been cheated on in the past and seems quite anxious about it. We had a heart to heart about how he has trust issues because of ex.

Some people really do say some stupid rubbish! It’s not an appropriate thing to say

Just ignore. Nobody is a cheat or not a cheat based on race, people make a choice to be a cheat

OMG - Ignore them.
I've been cheated on twice - both English.
Does that mean any English man I may choose in the future will cheat on me?
Same logic really!

Have you told your 'friend' how distasteful you find those remarks?

If you've discussed it and made that clear that's all you need to know then.

Only it was both of you that were exclusive, you're sure? Not just you? S American societies do hold men and women to different standards and women are often expected to be faithful when men are not. So having trust issues about a previous girlfriend and not wanting you to cheat are different from him promising to be faithful IYSWIM.

What pinkHeart said men's capabilities to cheat isn't linked to race, maybe as pp said can be acceptable in certain cultures but doesn't mean it still applies.

I've dated quite a few latino's all of them were an experience and half but some more intense than others that had me running and on the opposite side very refreshing and had no doubt they had eyes for me..It's probably just my perception but they and or eastern European men are very more open emotionally than British men I've dated, I have not written British off though!

Enjoy your latino

My partner is latino (European) and i have to say is probably the most loyal partner I've ever had! He can be very intense at times though

Being a 'latino' I think that is so racist

I am Latino and know many Latino men who are wonderful husband & boyfriends and a couple that I wouldn't touch with a barge pole, but no different to men of any other race. You get some diamonds and some ok and some are going to cheat or be useless no matter what Nationality