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To expect more from my mother

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Arkangel · 09/01/2018 11:27

My mum an I have a strained relationship. She's quite difficult, for example, I have a chronic pain illness that has effected me my entire life but since I have been diagnosed apparently my mum has it too (she doesn't, she can't, she hasn't had a womb for two decades).

This week has been horrendous. I lost my job unfairly and with no warning and I've been really ill and DP and I have split up but are thinking of trying to make it work and I called her to talk and after 40 minutes of her talking about when her and dad divorced (fifteen years ago, affair, nothing like me and DP) and then her talking for another 20 minutes about how I should probably go on benefits because it's easier (I'm crying by the way, full on sobbing sat on the floor next to the washing machine) she then spends another ten talking about how my one of my brothers is ill and she's worried about him (he has a cold and won't return her calls because he owes me money and it's that time of the month). I said my signal was going and hung up and just cried some more. I've got an appointment for universal credit in an hour and I look awful.

AIBU to expect a little bit more? I know I won't get it but I'm struggling and I just wanted my bloody Mother.

Tell me I'm not the only one. Please.

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SleepFreeZone · 09/01/2018 11:28

I'm afraid mine is pretty similar in that regard. I think it's an age thing.

LotsOfLoveAndSarcasm · 09/01/2018 11:29

You're not the only one OP Flowers yanbu. I hope things get better for you soon.

whoareyoukidding · 09/01/2018 11:31

Another one with a useless mother signing in. I hope things improve for you OP.

BeyondThePage · 09/01/2018 11:31

Another one with a similar mum, and MIL and stepmum. All late 70s with "I have/had that-itis".

You just want to say - "well YES, you may have, but I'm struggling right now and no-one will listen"

Arkangel · 09/01/2018 11:36

Thank you! And sorry your mothers are also as bad as mine.

If I say anything it'll end up not being worth it for me.

What I hate is that she loves my sister in law who is awful, AWFUL, and always has such wonderful things to say about her.

I've had a call for an interview, which was obviously perfect as I was all sobby and snotty and the recruiter sounded genuinely concerned that this could be my reaction to chopping onions for a casserole (what else could I say???) but hopefully it's positive...

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