To wonder what it feels like to actually get that BFP?

[ICanButDream]

Just about to start my 6th fresh cycle of IVF. We’ve been TTC for 6 years. We are going to ARGC (super expensive clinic with insane success rates) having saved for much longer to bring out the big guns. we Discovered additional issues recently (minor) which have been corrected and the new clinic think our chances are “very good”.

I know better than to get my hopes up as I’ve been ripped to pieces by infertility but cannot and will not give up.

Nevertheless, I am dating to dream this evening and would love to know what it actually feels like to get that BFP, particularly if you’ve been receiving fertility treatment?

I’m changing my approach this time round. Usually i am cautious to soften the almighty blow when a much-invested in cycle fails. This time I am doing the opposite but I cannot ever imagine being pregnant if that makes sense.

I got my BFP after 15 yrs of fertility treatment and another 2 yes after we had accepted that we were going to remain childless.

I took the test at 3am because I couldn't wait any longer, we were staying with mil and everyone was asleep. I called my bff at 3:15am.

I told dh when he woke - we travelled the 2 hours home in silence we were so shocked.

Good luck for your bfp

After 5 years I was stunned. Then very very excited. Good luck to you.

Got my BFP after 6 rounds of treatment. I still didn't really believe it until the baby arrived!

Did about 20 years to make sure the line was there and staying put. I'd been convinced it hadn't worked again and spent the whole 2ww angry at our bad luck.

Good luck with your treatment, I hope this round is your lucky one!

I got mine after ICSI. I got a phone call from the clinic and I was in total shock and cried. I really never thought it would work. I worried so much those first few months that it would go away - thankfully, it didn’t.

Good luck; I hope it works for you.

I couldn’t imagine being pregnant either!

I took my test in the loo at work on my lunch break as I couldn’t wait to get home and do it. Excitement, nerves and a tingly feeling for the rest of the afternoon until I could get home and talk to my oh properly about it.

Not IVF but other fertility treatment. We had 2.5 years of it and when I got that BFP I struggled to believe it was actually real. Then I was terrified until about 16 weeks or so that something would go wrong.

It felt like a weight I never knew I was carrying was lifted though.

The very best of luck this cycle.

After nine years, it felt - unbelievable.
I honestly didn't believe it and took about 20 tests to check!
Then I went into a state of shock and felt a bit numb and almost confused. I think I didn't want to allow myself to become too excited as I wanted to protect myself.

I allowed myself to start feeling happy after the 12 week scan, so I was a nervous wreck up to that point.
Then I was very very happy but didn't truly relax until after 32 weeks, because (in my head) the baby had a great chance of survival after that as I was born early.

It was amazing but terrifying!

Wishing you all the love And luck in the world xxx

Oh bless you all, thank you so much.

OhCalamity - I’ve never thought about it like that! I do often wonder what it would be like to live without this dark cloud following me everywhere!

💐💐. Hope everything goes well.

The first time was in the loos at work I could feel my heart pounding and everything felt so surreal. I spent the rest of my shift in a state of disbelief. The second time I still got the shakey heart pounding too.

Oh and fingers crossed for you!!

Honestly? I just stared & stared. And had eyes as wide as saucers. I was absolutely frozen.

ExDP was sitting in the living room, looking like he really wanted to pace, but didn't know how to. When I stumbled in and said 'it's positive' he didn't know whether to stand up, sit down, hug me, cry, laugh, say something, or be quiet. In the end, he pretty much managed all of them

Waves of love to you, Dream xx

I couldn't even speak, after 6 years of trying (we never got to IVF but were both on some pretty intense medications). I'd taken the test not thinking for an instant it would actually be positive. I called out my husband's name and he came downstairs where I was silently holding the test with wide eyes.

I spent the rest of pregnancy convinced the baby would die, or I'd die having him. Yikes! But all went well and he's almost 2 now. Weirdest part: when he was 16 months old, I conceived accidentally due to a bit of birth control carelessness. The doctor told us this sometimes happens, women who have a terribly difficult time getting pregnant the first time around are suddenly much more fertile after their first baby. THAT BFP felt like living in a dream, I never thought I'd get pregnant "the old fashioned way" without temping and fertile days and checking mucus and taking pills that made me crazy.

We're going to have to be very, very careful when the new baby arrives to make sure to be 100% compliant on birth control use. I admit that when we conceived DS2, we were being quite flippant about it, under the assumption that we'd need a great deal of help to conceive again.

I got pregnant after ICSI and 5 or so years of various treatment. I was kind of numb really. Didn't believe it at all. I had no symptoms for the first trimester too so I'd get all worked up and then test again every week or so and get stressed it would be gone.
I was convinced at the scan they would say 'oh, there is nothing here'.
And I had a big bleed at 5 weeks. I remember thinking 'oh, is that it. All that for 1 week of a few positive tests...' but he stuck around and is cuddling me now!
Good luck. It's the hardest journey ever in my opinion (and I've had cancer!)

Thanks so much for the replies. I love hearing about people’s happy endings.

I got pregnant at 30 after knowing I had PCOS for 13 years, and never having regular periods. It was my second round of Clomid.

I wasn't excited at first, more nervous and shakey as I'd done so many tests over the years and never seen that BFP! I just said to my husband "lets just wait and see" as I was adamant something would go wrong. Now I'm 34 weeks pregnant and heading off on mat leave next week, still feels surreal!

I thought getting pregnant would be the end of all my "baby worries", but in fact new worries just filled that space instead. I don't think I'll stop worrying until that baby is in my arms. But even then, I'm sure I'll start worrying about lots of other new things lol!

Don't give up hope OP

We didn't go through IVF but we struggled for years to conceive. Like you, I couldn't ever imagine getting that BFP, so much so that I gave up, booked 2 holidays and started saving to buy a house instead. I told DH that it was too much and I couldn't put myself through further tests/IVF when girls at work were falling pregnant left, right and centre by accident. It was too stressful for me ... then BAM pregnant!

DH made me go to Asda straight away to get a Clearblue test. He wouldn't believe me until he saw the word 'pregnant' written on that test. I didn't believe it either for a while but my DD is just over 3 weeks old now.

You'll get there, I know you will

I took a test in the loos at aldi! My period was late so when my partner was in town at an appointment I quickly bought some cheap tests and went to the nearest toilet. As soon as I saw it I started shaking and I just burst into the biggest sobs. I couldn't stop crying I was so happy after a long time of trying. Then I went to my Mum to tell her and told partner the next day :D

I have it all crossed for you xx

My first test I just stared and then began to shake, cry and laugh all at the same time. Told dh who did the same. An excited ball in my stomach was ever present, I felt special and precious.

Then getting a positive after 10 years and 7 miscarriages just felt like dread, fear and "here we go again", that excited ball turned into a knot of anxiety and pain.

But then our baby arrived, so it was all gone and he was our reward

I got my BFP after 6 cycles of IVF/ICSI with immune treatment.

What does it feel like?! Well, for me my lungs felt like they are about to burst because of the amount of air you suck into then due to not having being able to breath for the duration of the test working! Then there is the personal moment with your husband/partner where you can barely believe it. It feels surreal and that it can't be true because of the amount of crushing disappointments you have had over the time you've been TTC. The feeling is like nothing iv ever experienced. It's hard to describe because on the one hand you're ecstatic but then on the other its as if your self preservation won't let you acknowledge it and you feel that it's doomed to failure - that feeling never went for me until I gave birth.

You feel like you immediately want to lay down for 8 months and encase yourself in cotton wool to avoid anything that could possibly damage this thing you've waited so long to have.

We told our family about an hour afterwards and then the smiles and the tears came.

It's a moment I will never ever forget. I can't imagine how it feels to not have fertility problems and just take a test one day and getting a BFP - the build up to 'test day' is monumental.

I wish you masses of luck OP, ARGC is a fabulous clinic!

Currently 25 weeks pregnant with an ivf baby. It is utterly sereal and I can't quite believe it. Bfp day for me was not jumping up and down with joy, it was utter fear that it wouldn't last. I still feel like we are an infertile couple and get pangs of jealously when I hear other baby announcements. I don't like people congratulating me as I'm so nervous something will go wrong. Infertility never leaves you, it is part of me, but in this moment I am the happiest I have ever been. Wishing you so much luck and best wishes for your treatment x