To be p*ssed off with friend's reaction

[hellymart]

We've just got engaged and everyone's thrilled - except one of my best friends, who, when I told her, looked downright p*ssed off, made a bit of a joke and then, after a curt 'congratulations' proceeded to tell us all about HER proposal and engagement (and had a debate with her OH, who was also there, as to whether he got down on bended knee, etc). I wished I'd never told her! Anyone else had an odd reaction from a supposed good friend, to your own happy news?!

well if this is her reaction to your engagement then you can bet she will be a killjoy throughout your wedding preparations.
Think carefully before giving her any kind of bridesmaid.maid of honour role - she will sabotage it to make sure you don't get the 'attention' a normal bride-to-be does.

Also, it sounds like your friendship is very one-sided, what kind of 'friend' married 20 years behaves like this at your engagement news?!
Marriage issues or not it's no excuse so stop being a doormat for her.

My "best friend" was like this too. I got a curt "congratulations" and a card through the letterbox without her even checking I was home - this was someone I would usually see in person several times a week!

I think the jealousy got too much, she withdrew from the friendship and in the end she wasn't even invited to the wedding. I've not spoken to her since my engagement party which was almost 3 years ago now!

Focus on your happiness and enjoy all the lovely comments from everybody else that cares about you congratulations!

Congrats! My friend's were all great.
Mother in law on the other hand came over all funny and had a bit of a cry..

I had a weird reaction to my engagement from my sil. She made a odd comment about my ring and then talked about herself and my brothers engagement... (they had been engaged for 10 yrs by this point). My brother apparently said to my other sibling 'so what, everyone gets engaged ' - yes but I got married too db, a mere year later

I've never got the impression she doesn't like my fella. He's pretty hard to dislike (but then, I would say that!) I honestly just think it's a bit of jealousy and not wanting anyone else to be the centre of attention but as PinkHeart said, she had her day 20 years ago! Perhaps she thinks I'm going to turn into a Stepford Wife. Clearly, I'm not alone in receiving strange comments!

We struggle the same way with one of our relatives. We've come to expect their response and subsequent attention seeking behaviour. Poking fun at it seems to mask how hurtful it is.

thanks to you all for your kind messages and congratulations! I promise not to become a bridezilla!