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To rearrange the house without getting OH's approval?

13 replies

Lovecat · 25/04/2007 16:30

For the last 6 months to a year I have been chuntering on about changing our downstairs rooms around, OH has been ignoring me.

We were selling but have now decided not to move, as his job may be shifting up North in the near future (we will know in the next 6 months), so we're getting the piano and some bookcases back out of storage - now would be the perfect opportunity to rearrange the rooms while we have big hefty men to move the furniture around, but he is being a PITA and refusing to commit to anything.

I am soooooo tempted to do it myself and present him with a fait accompli...

Basically, we have a long, thin living room. At one end is the telly, sofa etc, at the other end are dd's little table and chairs, toys and book storage. Now because of the layout of this room (10' wide for most of the 29' room, fireplace slap in the middle, directly opposite the door), it is impossible to have the seating grouped together as it looks extremely cramped (we have big sofas). We had the tv put on the wall to see if it made a difference but no. Consequently we sit about 12 foot apart from each other of an evening, which is bad enough, but when we have company round it's ridiculous!

Our dining room is a much nicer size (12' x 17') and our 2 sofas and chair would fit in there brilliantly. However, it does have a door into the kitchen (given that we tend to eat in front of the telly after dd has gone to bed, I don't necessarily see this as a disadvantage!) and we would need to remount the telly on the chimney breast/buy a new telly (which the OH would quite like to do as ours isn't HD ready....).

Then we could put the dining table in the half of the old l/r where the french windows are and create a proper playspace in the other end of the room for dd, with a sofabed and her 'video only' telly, leaving us with our 'adult' space for the evenings.

I, of course, think this is a fab idea , but Mr LC is one of those blokes who can't visualise anything until he sees it, iykwim.

What d'you reckon? Shall I just organise it and have done with it, or is that just toooo unreasonable?

OP posts:
collision · 25/04/2007 16:32

just do it

Lovecat · 25/04/2007 16:33

Yay!

OP posts:
heiferCROCloather · 25/04/2007 16:41

Go for it... (as you have tried to talk to him about it)

If he doesn't like it, he can always put it back how it was (after discussing with you of course)....

RosaLuxembourg · 25/04/2007 16:54

Do it. If he can't visualise it you need to demonstrate. He won't mind moving all the furniture back if he doesn't like it, will he?

NadineBaggott · 25/04/2007 16:57

Do it, it used to be a hobby of mine.

He may chunter for a while but he ain't gonna start shiftin' and humpin' once it's all done is he.

Anyway you're (new) arrangements sounds heaps better.

oxocube · 25/04/2007 17:00

God, just do it! I change things all the time at home as my OH isn't interested/can't be bothered. So I figure that as I do all the work, I get to have it how I want it. He frequently comes home to find the kids' bedrooms a different colour or a new (well, usually second hand actually!) piece of furniture.

Stigaloid · 25/04/2007 17:12

Do it! Sounds well thought out and better suited to your living environment. If he doesn't like it he can change it back.

LilRedWG · 25/04/2007 17:13

Agree with Rosa!

pointydog · 25/04/2007 17:14

The time it took you to write that room plan, you could have shifted it all.

You;re dwelling on it too much

willywonka · 25/04/2007 17:15

Dh has often come home to find the furniture rearranged and it's not as if you're knocking through walls or anything. Hope it works out!

Lovecat · 25/04/2007 17:16

Pointydog - not our bleedin' piano I couldn't have!

I need to get 2 big hairy men in to shift that thing around...

OP posts:
scrapper · 25/04/2007 17:24

Do it!

It wouldn't occur to me to ask Oh before I did anything like that.

cupcakes · 25/04/2007 17:27

do it. I love mo0ving the furniture around. Would never ask dh.

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