To be feeling lost as won't be having any more children

[Dishwashersaurous]

I am currently feeling a bit lost and directionless and need a focus in my life.

Three children, youngest is eighteen months. The last decade has been about having babies, mixed in with various fertility issues.

I know that we can't have any more children because I am feeling so strange that I am never going to be pregnant or give birth again. It is making me slightly morose.

So am I alone in feeling like this and how do I snap out of it?

No useful advice, sorry, but I’m expecting our second (and last) child in two weeks, so I imagine I’ll be in a similar position to you soon!

Do you work? I’m a sahm and I’m planning to get back to work ASAP after this baby is born. Even if it’s just something very part-time as I already feel a bit useless, as I do very little at home atm, due to being giant and exhausted.

I think you need to focus on the positives. You have children. Most infertility experiences don’t result in a child, and so you have already done well.

I had number 2 a year ago and I feel the same. I think it's more an 'that stage has past' kind of feeling. A little bit like I felt after getting married. I get a bit wistful when I see newborns. Then I remind myself that my body doesn't handle pregnancy well, I can't cope with another miscarriage, the lack of sleep, the all consuming need of a baby, the lack of money whilst on mat leave etc.