to be so upset at moving out

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I'm 22, pregnant and just signed the lease to my first flat with my boyfriend so we can have our own proper 'family' home. Not sure if it's the pregnancy hormones but just feeling so emotional about leaving my mum and dad, as well as my younger siblings (13&8).

I know I'm being U since the flat I've picked is 5 mins round the corner and I drive so can come back anytime, and of course we need our own space with a baby on the way but I just feel so down just looking for a hand hold and reassurance that this isn't the end of the world because it feels like such a terrifying step right now

I'm 32 and still miss my Mum and Dads. Until I go round and then 4hrs later I want to be gone quicker than a slippery kipper. And I don't even know what that is!

@TrinitySquirrel haha! i know i'm being silly but also just finding it really hard to adjust!

They'll miss you more! Enjoy settling into your new home and go and visit mum and dad regularly. It's understandable you're feeling a bit emotional - it's a big step moving out!

Be kind to yourself xx

How lovely that you'll miss them, as they will undoubtedly miss you too. It just shows how much you care about each other - most 22 year olds can't wait to leave home! You'll never be rid of them once baby comes along so enjoy this special time now with your bf

@NancyDonahue I've always been weird, I couldn't even go for sleepovers when I was younger because I'd get too homesick first ever holiday with my bf too and I phoned her at least 6x a day, I'm such a baby!

@OhOfCourse thank you xx

Yanbu

I cried on moving day, after I dropped DD off at nursery I came home to find the removal can already parked up and packing and just burst into tears on the lawn.

Walked in the house and cried when I saw them packing up our things. My partner hugged me and asked me what was wrong. I cried even more when he hugged me whilst we were stood in our empty bedroom.

I cried when I drove to the new house, refused to get out of the car. I cried when I saw the men move the washing machine into the new house.

I drove to a coffee shop and cried into my hot chocolate.

Picked DD up and drove back to our old house and cried again. I was supposed to take her to the new house but I couldn't face it.

When we drove back to the new house ... you guessed it! I cried!!!!

I was pregnant at the time but didn't know it. Didn't help that we lost the baby too. So more crying was involved.

We had another two weeks on our tenancy at the old house, so I visited it everyday after drop off at nursery.

I just felt so attached to the house. It was home for me.

I really didn't want to hand the keys back to the landlord. I'm aware the house is empty again and I've been hinting to oh to think about moving back there.

I'm happy to hold your hand through this move ! Let's cry together!

I had my daughter and at a younger age than you and I remember leaving and saying goodbye to mum. She acted like she didn't care and I was so hurt! I remember it like yesterday.

I now know she did it to make it easier on me because I am such a homebody and pretty sensitive too!

As others have said, you'll be back there all the time and you'll get used to (and proud) of your first family home!

Xx

@Munrow sorry for your loss. I'm gradually moving myself out of the family home but not sure if I'm making it more difficult on myself as whenever I start to get used to nights in the new flat I end up back home and feel like I can't leave. I didn't realise how much of an impact it would have!