AIBU to think people over use the term “best friend”?

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A bit like how people profess love for every boyfriend/girlfriend they’ve ever had?

Some people genuinely do have a best friend. But it seems a fair amount of people seem to flit with who (or is it whom?) their best friend is year in, year out.

I think TV and media, particularly reality TV, demonstrate this best, like with the over professing of love.

I’m not sure I’ve ever had a best friend. I would consider DH be the one person I let see every side of me but that’s not the same thing really?

I have lots of close friends but I would go to them for different things.

Do that many people really have one best friend or is it that many just have a best friend for that time in their life that might switch to someone else in a few years? And is the later actually a friendship of “best friends?”

That was longer than intended 🤦🏽‍♀️

I've got a best friend. I met her when I was 4 in Primary 1 at school on our first day. Life and our relationship has been full of ups and downs but here we are, 43 years later!

Well I guess a ‘best friend’ can change as life moves on.

I didn’t have a ‘best friend’ until about 10 years ago. She is my soul mate in a non-sexual way! Will we be best friends for ever? I hope so but who knows.

I haven't had a 'best friend' since I was about 14. Different friends have different qualities - I see no point in ranking one above the others.

LagunaBubbles that’s lovely!

FluffyWuffy100 maybe mine is yet to come...

ScreamingValenta yes, that’s what I mean. Maybe I’m also not tolerable enough for just one person to be the one I go to. Everyone annoys me at some point, as I’m sure I do them, so I need to mix it up

I honestly haven't noticed this over use of the phrase "best friend".

I have a best friend - same one since 1981. She's not my oldest friend, she's just the one I have shared most with over the years.

I have a best friend. I met him when he was 16; he was sitting all on his own having joined our sixth form from another school. I can picture the scene to this day.

This one will run for life. Boyfriends come and go. Husbands come and go. But Poppet is a constant

Tween/Teen girls I know use it as a weapon of exclusion and who is who’s BFF changes weekly if not more often. I hate the whole best friend thing now after seeing how it can be used as bullying tool.

People overuse the word friend fullstop. Endless posts on here about "friends" when they are clearly actually acquaintances, which they often can't stand.
When people say they have a large number of friends I always think Nah, you do not.

stevie69 that’s so sweet. My “best friend” from secondary school, I can remember our first meet. We’re still good friends and meet up and have very honest chats but it’s more and when thing.

peppapigwouldmakelovelyrashers really? I have a lot of friends. I consider them thusly as I enjoy their company, we message, meet up independently if anyone else etc. To me an acquaintance is more a friend of a friend or someone who I only see on group nights out. Maybe my definitions are wrong.

And yeah, it definitely can be a weapon or even a power tactic like “but you’re my best friend” rather than saykng someone else is

Not had a best friend since primary school. My sister on the other hand has about half a dozen based on her facebook feed constantly declaring their "bestie love" - find it a bit childish to need the public affirmation but then I'm not really a people person anyway

I have 2 best friends. I would do anything for them and they would do anything for me. I also have lots of other friends and acquisitions. But when the shot hits the fan I know who I am calling. I don't see anything wrong with that

Shit not shot

I have a group of friends from high school (so 24 years) who I would consider some of my best friends but that about longevity and shared experiences. We don't see each often but message frequently in messenger. We do weddings and christenings and they very hard to see each other inbetween. They are my family not of blood.
Then I have a Best Friend with whom I talk more often, more deeply. She was my bridesmaid and my child's god mother. I better be her bridesmaid. We have had arguments but much like a new relationship finding its feet we navigate better now. I truly believe we will always be in each others lives.

I have two best friends, both from 25+ years ago. V different friendships, different genders. Other best friends have come and gone over the years, but were hugely important at the time: 'friends for a reason, friends for a season or friends for life'.

I think the original pair are stuck with me for life. One was reminding me the other day that we’re saving for another big holiday for our next big birthday (years off) and the other is trying to get me to commit to live out our dotage together in a foreign villa. I said it depends whether I like whoever else he wants to live with by then...

I have known my best friend from the age of 3. I will be 50 this year. We might not be constantly in contact, but we both know we have each other's back.
In an emergency we'd be the first person the other contacted.
As he says, one of us will bury the other.

Yes! “Bestie” 🤢

But then I feel a bit put out no one feels like that about me 😂

Can’t win