To still be overwhelmed

[Sarahh2014]

At this parenting thing?
I look at ds 3 and still can't believe we've made such a gorgeous human.Yes I've had vodka but Its still scary to be responsible for another human when not so long ago I was only responsible for myself (light hearted obvs)

I know. I was looking at my two earlier and remembering when we were choosing our house 8 years ago with a little play park and there they are now playing in it. They weren't even an embryo then.

I've only ever wanted one and had bad pnd.I just don't feel grown up enough to have a nearly 4 yr old (I'm 37)

How do you think those of us with adult children feel?!

I had a 3rd ds after an 8 year gap. Hes so sweet. Has a big smile an infectious laugh his older brothers love him to bits. Can't believe he's almost 1.

That feeling doesn’t really end. I’ve been a parent now for nearly 22 years and I still get terrified if I think about it too much!

I think almost daily about dd (just turned 9) about how amazing she is. How funny, kind, profound, grown up, young, clever she is and we are responsible for her and how she is so dependant on us for day to day life, how she forms relationships in the future etc.

It's scary and amazing!

I don't feel grown up enough to have a 19yo DS.

He's handsome and gentle and kind. He's also way cleverer than me, and will gently tell me off if I'm being a fool.

DH and I are amazed we managed to turn out such a wholesome citizen. We're very proud, if slightly bemused.

Thank God! I feel like I should be on top of things by now and I feel too young to be responsible for a human lol

It never feels real...

I too, have these thoughts, my 2 ds are 11 and 8, when ppl often ask ‘are you having anymore kids?’ I inwardly panic at the thought of handling babies and all the chaos that goes with it , I don’t know how I’ve managed to raise the two I have in the last decade , it’s all a blur

It never ends, in a good way I hope.

My lovely teenage son has just put the dogs to bed and told me he’s leaving the external lights on until his older sister is safely home, then he’ll lock the door.

He has a life limiting disease but his Friday night is full of thoughts of kindness towards others.

How did I get a son like him?

Our eldest just turned 2 this week, we've also had another baby since. I often sit and stare at them both and say to my husband in a disbelief tone "we made them, look how perfect they are" I thought I was just a slightly obsessed mother to be honest! It doesn't feel real that I have 2 beautiful children, I'm in my 30s and I sometimes don't feel old enough (in my head) to have 2 kids. When I found out we were pregnant with our first (planned) I told the doctor I didn't feel old enough, he looked at me and laughed and pointed out I'd have been a geriatric mother once upon a time!!!

YANBU! Still totally overwhelmed with two boys. I never ever saw my future self with two boys.

Some touching posts. Agreed its scary being a parent!

Christ knows how my mum copes

Sometimes I just look at DD (3) and can't even comprehend how I managed to raise such an amazing little person. Last week I said I wanted a puppy and she replied.. "You can't have a puppy, they bite ... Sorry." I said "Oh.. Ok never mind then"... and then I remembered I'm the parent and couldn't stop laughing at how the tables had turned.

I used to feel like this but as the parent of two teenage girls, things are a lot more of a battle now (live them to bits though)!

YANBU.

Mine are 4 and 11, they love each other but christ they don't half fight a lot! Yesterday I watched them on the bus from a few rows back and the eldest put his arm around his wee sister to cuddle in because she said she was tired.

I admit I got a wee bit bleary eyed and smiled to myself thinking how amazing it was that I'd made those 2 little people :)

I have a 12 month old and am 19, it is terrifying! Does the mummy brain forgetfulness ever go?

I don't think the feeling ever goes away!
I turned 50 yesterday and for the first time in over year, had all four kids home (one lives 200 miles away but the others are currently all back home).
We went out for a lovely meal, and I watched them laughing together, joking with their partners, jostling, teasing and just enjoying being together (they are 20,23,24 and 25) and it just hit me that we had made these REAL PEOPLE !

I’m so glad I found this thread when I did: I’m up feeding my 5 month old and feeling overwhelmed with the love I have for her that I keep going to dark places in my mind about different scenarios (dying etc). She’s amazing and I love her so much. I’ve read some really sad and touching threads on MN today and tonight and I was sat having a little tear (doesn’t help that lovely FIL has stage 4 cancer and outcome doesn’t look good). Anyway, this is a long winded way of saying thank you for this thread xxx

@Elsiejane, I had my first in my teens and my memory has been pretty shit since... I'm 31 now!

Other than that I seem to have recovered mostly :o

boredofmyoldname
Thank god, im always getting called forgetful, i was never this bad before little one! I started to think it was just me and all the other mums were always nicely organised! How silly of me!