Ex and sick baby

[peppapig17]

NC'd for this but many will probably guess who I am. Have posted about ex before several times but need another rant!

DS has been severely ill over Xmas and NY including a trip to A&E (doctor advised)
Ex saw DS on 30th December after having contact suspended by me cause DS was so ill. He obviously didn't believe me, cause when he came in he commented on how Poorly DS looked and DS was constantly whinging and crying for me, so saw first handed I wasn't lying/exaggerating!

During this visit, we had words about ex's seriousness about DS and his future intentions and spoke about a recent time where he'd been misleading with dates & times of a holiday to avoid seeing DS. He admitted he didn't have a reason for doing this and basically he just didn't wanna see DS that day.

So the whole week has gone past including this trip to A&E and ex has not once contacted me to see if DS is better, how he was doing or generally ask after him at all - until an hour ago, when it was an after thought after asking me if he could bring more visitors to his contact time tomorrow afternoon. I haven't replied cause he'll say something tomorrow and when I point out that he didn't ask/care etc he can say 'well I asked last night' which just isn't on!

I know he's not gonna change/I don't want/need to change him etc, but AIBU in thinking it's disgusting to not care about his son at all??

Thanks if you got through all that!!

Sorry. But it does sound like you have a fractious relationship and he may have felt it was better to assume if there was a problem you would contact him and otherwise to keep contact to a minimum.

@Eltonjohnssyrup thank you. I think for separated couples, we are as amicable as possible. It gets to me tho that he claims to think of DS 24/7 and he is his world and he thinks about and cares about no one else, but doesn't even ask after him? Even if our relationship (as parents) was a bit rocky, should you let that affect your behaviour and attitude towards your child??