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To not want a man child?!?!

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Sleepdeprived91 · 04/01/2018 22:01

I’ve done all of the cooking, all of the cleaning, made lunches for tomorrow, done everything that possibly needed doing around the house.

Go into the living room and DH is trying to calm a screaming 7 month old DD. She’s screaming because it’s 2 hours past her bed time. I asked why she wasn’t in bed or even dressed for bed and apparently it’s because I didn’t ask him to so he’s not to know.

Is it unreasonable to not want a man child?

I’ve now put DD to bed and hiding in the bedroom in my dressing gown because dressing gowns always make me feel better.

OP posts:
AssassinatedBeauty · 04/01/2018 22:03

Is he usually like that?

WorraLiberty · 04/01/2018 22:06

Does she always go to bed at the same time?

Did he actually know what time she was supposed to go?

Why did you put her to bed instead of letting him get on with it?

whirlygirly · 04/01/2018 22:09

You'd hope if she's 7 months old he'd have copped on to what her usual bedtime should be..

InspMorse · 04/01/2018 22:11

So for 2 hrs, you've been doing jobs around the house & have been unaware that your DH & now overtired baby haven't gone upstairs?
It's obviously not your job to do everything but why leave it 2 hours before you notice/say anything?
Has he got used to you taking the lead?

WhooooAmI24601 · 04/01/2018 22:11

He's had 7 months and not done a single bedtime before today? He needs a steep learning curve. Or to step up and realise that all adults do their share in a family home otherwise it's simply a hotel.

WorraLiberty · 04/01/2018 22:12

I'm assuming the baby hasn't gone to bed at the same time every night for seven months, but perhaps she has?

I don't know, which is why I asked.

ILoveDolly · 04/01/2018 22:16

My oldest is 11 and I still sometimes need to time check my husband when he's doing bedtime. I find the best strategy is to be clear about the fact that the baby suffers and he also will find bedtime harder if he doesn't remember accurately.

Original poster
Sleepdeprived91 · 04/01/2018 22:17

She normally goes to sleep roughly the same time every night unless she’s poorly etc. I normally put her to bed but have had s family emergency today so haven’t been able to get my usual cleaning done which is why I did it tonight instead when he got home.

Should have said before, I have headphones in when I clean so it doesn’t seem to boring I guess!

Just wanted to vent. Feel like it’s obvious she needed to be asleep but I guess what’s obvious to me isn’t the same as what’s obvious to him Confused

OP posts:
BoomBoomsCousin · 04/01/2018 22:25

If he doesn't spend much time with her around her bed/nap times normally he may not know what indicates that she's tired rather than grumpy/hungry/etc. so I think as a one-off it's not necessarily an indication of a man-child. But at 7 months he really ought to have done quite a few bedtimes and if he's normally home at this time and she's normally in bed then that should have been a huge neon light about bed time.

So this isn't necessarily a particularly bad incident on its own, it's more what it suggests about day-to-day responsibility that he takes and the extent to which he's aware of what goes on with his DD and how proactive he is about dealing with her.

WorraLiberty · 04/01/2018 22:27

But why did you end up putting her to bed?

stickytoffeevodka · 04/01/2018 22:42

Why has he not done her bedtime before now?

I mean, if he had done, he'd know what do - right?

IlikemyTeahot · 04/01/2018 22:44

ugh I sympathise with you OP sorry to hear you also have a man child...If anyone knows of any training tips?...

WorraLiberty · 04/01/2018 22:51

If anyone knows of any training tips?...

Well not being a martyr helps

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