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AIBU?

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To take new job after current boss has been so flexible

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Shoegurl1 · 04/01/2018 13:57

Dilemma here. And I hope this isn’t too confusing.
At the beginning of 2016 we relocated to new city due to DHs job. I was 4 months pregnant so left my old job. Old job had extensive international and national travel, good money, in my specialist field. I couldn’t have done that job with a young baby. So although at the time the move wasn’t ideal, I’d have struggled to do it after DS was born.

I didn’t work again until March 2017, where I started a pt job 2 and half days a week. Job is in my field, sales, but not in my preferred and specialist industry (which I loved). Job is local to where we live, 5 mins from Ds nursery and nice area etc. It was also first job after having ds so I wasn’t sure how the balance was going to be. Really enjoy my working days, get to have hot coffee and enjoy the adult interaction and of course engaging my brain.
My husband then got offered job (within same company) opportunity in foreign country to start in Oct and to be back in uK in Feb (2018). I handed notice in to current employer before we left and although initially his reaction wasn’t great, the time difference isn’t too much so we agreed I could still do my job from country we are in for two days a week. He was very flexible and it’s been great to keep an income etc. He’s a nice guy and we now agreed that when I return I’ll be working 3 days a week.

Last week I have seen a job ad online (from an old job alerts subscription) which is very similar to my old job, (before DS) in my field, much better pay, full time, ticks all my boxes etc. Have had telephone/Skype interview, and things are looking positive.

Obviously I won’t know if I have the job for a little while so can’t make the decision yet. But I feel guilty that my current boss has been so flexible and done what he can to keep me and accomodate our situation.
So....AIBU (if lucky enough to be offered the job) to take it? After everything he hs done? DH thinks look after number one and take it if it’s offered where as I’m just feeling really guilty at the propsect of handing my in notice.

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peppapigwouldmakelovelyrashers · 04/01/2018 14:00

He'd get rid of you if it suited the business. It's a job not a charity, and he's your boss not your friend (he may be both, but he's your boss first!). You take whatever job works best for you and your family. Your boss would, your DH would. Any man would.

Fabpinky · 04/01/2018 14:01

You have to do what is best for you. I would feel guilty too, but if the tables were turned and they didn't need you anymore or something, they wouldn't bat an eyelid at getting rid of you.

Take the job if you are offered it

Deemail · 04/01/2018 14:03

Do you want to work fulltime for the foreseeable future?

confusedandemployed · 04/01/2018 14:04

PP are correct but having had lots of experience of thinking the grass is greener, I have come to appreciate the value of a good boss. Your work / life balance sounds great too.

Shoegurl1 · 04/01/2018 14:04

Yes- I do, quite frankly, with crippling childcare costs and no family nearby, we need the extra money

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Shoegurl1 · 04/01/2018 14:06

Confused—this is also playing on my mind

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KathArtic · 04/01/2018 14:06

Are you planning any more children? Will you want to go part time again? Will you lose mat pay?

Shoegurl1 · 04/01/2018 14:06

KathArtic- not planning anymore for at least another 2/3 years

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